A mother in the counseling room kept complaining that her middle school child would not communicate with her at all. When the child came home, he would go into his room, and no matter what his parents said, he would answer with a single sound like “um” or “ah”, and even if he occasionally said more than one word, the most he would say was “whatever! “. I really don’t know what’s going on. After listening to the lady, I smiled and asked, “If one day a Chinese and an Englishman meet on the street and each speaks his own native language and neither understands what the other is saying, whose responsibility is it in that case?” The lady thought for a moment and said, “Both sides are responsible.” ”Is there any mistake? Am I walking on the street and I meet a foreigner and I can’t understand his language and I am responsible? That doesn’t seem to make sense, does it?” ”Then whose responsibility is it?” The lady was a little puzzled and asked me in disbelief. ”It depends on who wants to communicate. If a British person asks for directions, it is the British person’s responsibility; if a Chinese person asks a British person, it is the Chinese person’s responsibility. In a word, whoever wants to get the result of communication should take the initiative and take effective action, and whoever is responsible for communication.” Communication is everywhere, all the time, in many relationship systems. Not only in parent-child communication, but in all communication including doctor-patient communication, the effectiveness of communication is paramount. No matter how well prepared you are for communication, no matter how innovative and chic you take the communication means, no matter how appropriate you choose the time, as long as the results of communication does not appear, as long as we do not achieve the desired effect. As the leader of communication, we need to re-examine our thinking and behavior, redesign our communication plan, summarize our experience and learn lessons in order to find new and effective ways to achieve our purpose in future communication.