Psychological counseling is a good way to relieve psychological stress and improve psychological tolerance, almost everyone needs psychological counseling in their lifetime, but in reality there are still many people who have some misconceptions about psychological counseling.
Myth 1: Counseling is chatting
Psychological counseling is different from the general sense of chatting, although the main way of psychological counseling is to talk, but psychological counseling using the professional theoretical knowledge of psychology, and sociology, medicine and other aspects of knowledge, there is a strict scientific theoretical system and operating procedures, so as to achieve the purpose of solving psychological problems, helping people to lift the psychological crisis and promote the development of personality. This is completely different from friends chat, family and friends of persuasion and comfort, teachers of education, leadership of ideological and political work.
Misconception 2: Anyone can be a counselor
As no one can just drive a car, counselors should undergo rigorous training and assessment, and obtain a license from the management before taking up the job. According to the requirements of developed countries, a qualified wholly-owned counselor should basically have a doctorate in psychology and medicine, undergo rigorous internship training, have some practical experience, pass a certification qualification examination, and be able to practice alone under the guidance of a superior supervising teacher.
For well-known reasons, China has not yet reached the requirements of developed countries, and the gap is very large. We can only lower the standard to enable some talents who love psychological counseling and basically have the quality of psychological counseling, and gradually cultivate senior professionals in psychological counseling to strive for early convergence with international standards.
Myth 3: I have good psychological quality, I don’t need psychological counseling
Psychological counseling is not only to solve your psychological crisis and a large number of psychological problems. No matter how strong, smart, decent, passionate and knowledgeable you are, you cannot know yourself very well and you need to know yourself from other people. You can’t reflect on yourself every moment, nor can you always look at yourself from an outsider’s standpoint. Learning about yourself from others may give you false indications. Counseling is a more standard mirror that allows you to understand yourself correctly from all angles without distortion. A correct understanding of oneself can build on one’s strengths and avoid one’s weaknesses to promote development and success in life.
Myth 4: Counselors can read my mind and know my past and future
Some people make the mistake of simplifying psychological counseling, while others make the mistake of overcomplicating and mystifying it. Some people equate psychology with mystical doctrines, such as fortune tellers, divination, supernatural powers, etc. There are now electronic computers on the market that are used to cheat people under the guise of psychological tests, and some people deliberately ask psychologists to guess their own psychological activities and use them to measure the level of psychologists, etc.
There is nothing special about psychologists other than the fact that their expertise in psychology is different from the general population. Psychologists have good trained observation skills, know the scientific laws of mental activity and have a very objective logical analysis ability to determine certain subconscious mental activities, but all this must come from real, objective and comprehensive information.
Psychologists themselves cannot, and cannot with the help of high-tech instruments, learn about specific ideas. The most advanced polygraphs cannot measure specific details of thinking, and people’s knowledge of the brain lags far behind that of the most sophisticated electronic computers, and the psychological world is not as complex as modern people imagine. You must have a scientific mind when dealing with psychological counseling.
Myth 5: It’s a shame to go for counseling
Due to historical reasons and many objective factors, people do not know much about their own psychological world, and many people still cannot distinguish between “neurological” and “mental”, “spiritual” and “psychological” and “psychological”. Many people do not know the difference between “neurological” and “mental”, “mental” and “psychological”, and “mind”. Fear and suspicion of psychological counseling may stem from ignorance of “mental illness” and fear of being treated as “mentally abnormal” and psychological problems as “psychopathic” and “thought problems. “thought problems”. Sometimes minor psychological problems may not be solved scientifically, resulting in the final development of heavy mental illness.
It is sad that psychological problems are allowed to develop by “covering” and “hiding” them. Psychological counseling is one of the best ways to promote human growth and development, an effective way to prevent psychological disorders, and a sure way to improve the quality of life and achieve success in life. The most basic principles of counseling include “absolute confidentiality”, where you can open up your inner world to the psychologist and he or she will take good care of it. Counseling will enable you to move away from ignorance and superstition, accept reality and challenge yourself.
People who think that “it’s a shame to see a psychologist” are weak and afraid to accept themselves and reality, and their psychology is not very healthy. Modern progressive-minded people have walked into the counseling room without fear and with confidence towards a successful future.
Myth 6: Psychological counseling should not charge or charge less
Psychological counseling is something that helps people, it’s about helping people to relieve their spiritual pain, it’s about doing good deeds, and it doesn’t cost much, so many people think it should be free of charge. Although modern people know in theory that time and knowledge are valuable, because these are intangible things and because of the influence of traditional thinking deep inside, many people need counseling but are unwilling to pay for it. While psychological counseling is a very expensive expense abroad, the fees in China are so low that many psychologists cannot make a living out of it, which has become one of the reasons affecting the development of mental health in China.
Myth 7: Psychological counseling should solve the problem at once
Many first-time psychological counseling people have the illusion that psychologists can sweep away their long-term depression and pain, clear the fog of the mind, away from worry and confusion, see the true blue sky, and return my relaxed mood and uplifting spirit.
However, psychologists are not fairies, and there is no kung fu beyond normal people. “The bell must be tied”, psychological counseling is to help people solve their own problems, psychologists can not solve the problem, but only to provide some correct understanding of themselves, analysis of problems, problem solving specific methods, must have the helper himself many times It is necessary to have the helper practice many times before the problem can be solved. Unless the psychological problem is very simple, a single counseling session can achieve the desired effect. Many problems are “frozen in three feet, not in one day” and have personality problems.
Some real problems may also involve various aspects, and counseling cannot be solved at once. Counseling is about helping the person to understand himself or herself and accept the reality so that he or she can transcend it. Therefore, counseling requires a process of understanding, a procedure of discussion, analysis, operation, feedback, revision, and re-practice, and it is generally impossible to solve problems at once. And there is a time limit for each counseling session. In the past, counseling took a long time (months to years) to solve the problem, but now, due to the improvement of theory and technology, the process has been greatly shortened, but it is never possible to solve the problem all at once.
Counseling in China is still relatively new, both those who are engaged in this business and the general public who need counseling need to have a fairly long process of understanding and acceptance. It is undeniable that there is a vast market for psychological counseling and a bright future for its development. There is no doubt that a healthy mind is very important for individuals, a nation and a country.