With the development of society, the possibility of people being troubled by psychological problems has gradually increased. Although the psychological consulting industry has developed in recent years, but there are still many people can not enjoy professional psychological consulting services, the reasons for this on the one hand and the serious shortage of psychologists ration; the other side, but also the main reason is that people’s perception of psychological consulting misconceptions: misconceptions a psychological consulting is chatting “psychological consulting is not to spend money to find someone to talk with, and It’s no different from finding a friend to chat with.” Such a misunderstanding has a lot to do with the fact that psychological counseling mainly uses the conversation method, but psychological counseling is different from chatting in the general sense, it is based on the professional theory and skills knowledge of psychology, but also combined with medical, sociological, educational and other aspects of knowledge, there is a strict scientific theoretical system and operating procedures, so as to achieve the purpose of solving psychological problems, helping to lift the psychological crisis and promote the perfection of personality. Therefore, psychological counseling is completely different from the chatting with friends, the persuasion and comfort of friends and relatives, the education of teachers, and the ideological and political work of leaders. The people who can provide “chat” services are not just anyone, but need to go through specific training and assessment before they can be competent. Myth 2: Counselors can read my mind and know my past and future “You study psychology can not know what I am thinking?” This is another major misconception oversimplification. Some people over-complicate and mystify counseling, equating it with occult doctrines such as being the same as fortune tellers, divination, and supernatural powers. Some people take advantage of people’s misunderstanding of psychological counseling, using electronic computers under the guise of psychological testing to deceive people for profit; some people deliberately let psychologists to guess their own mental activities, and use this to measure the level of psychologists and so on. There is nothing special about psychologists except that their expertise in psychology is different from that of the general population. Trained psychologists have good observation skills, know the scientific laws of mental activity and have the ability to analyze them objectively and logically, and can determine certain subconscious mental activities, but all this must come from real, objective and comprehensive information. And the most advanced lie detector can not measure the specific details of thinking, people’s understanding of the brain is far behind the understanding of the most most complex electronic computer, the complexity of the psychological world is far more than the degree imagined by modern people. The counselor can see more than the average person, but by no means all. Myth 3: Counseling should solve problems at once I often hear people complaining that counseling is useless and can’t even solve my problems. Such complaints often come from visitors who have only had one consultation, and who have high expectations of the counselor before the consultation, imagining that the psychologist will be able to sweep away their long-term depression and pain at once. However, “three feet of ice is not a day’s cold”, many problems are the product of long time accumulation, and are even characterized by things that are difficult to change in a short time, let alone solve at once. The psychologist is to assist people to solve their own problems, not to solve the problem, but to provide some correct understanding of themselves, analysis of problems, problem solving specific methods, must be the specific practice of the person to seek help for many times to solve. Some of them may also involve various real-life problems, and it is even more difficult for counseling to solve problems at one time. Psychological counseling requires a process of understanding, a discussion, analysis, operation, feedback, correction, and re-practice procedures, and it is generally impossible to solve problems at once, except for a very small number of single psychological problems, which can achieve more desirable results in one counseling session. Myth #4 I’m psychologically sound and don’t need counseling Counseling is not just limited to solving your psychological crisis and serious psychological problems. No matter how strong, smart, cheerful, enthusiastic and knowledgeable you are, you cannot know yourself completely; you need to know yourself from other people. You cannot self-reflect every moment, nor can you always look at yourself from the position of an outsider. Learning about yourself from ordinary others may give you false indications. Counseling is a more standard mirror that allows you to understand yourself correctly from all angles without distortion. A correct understanding of oneself can build on one’s strengths and avoid one’s weaknesses, and promote further personal improvement. Due to historical reasons and many objective factors, many people fail to distinguish between “neurological” and “mental”, “mental” and “psychological”, and “psychological”. Many people fail to distinguish between “nervous” and “mental”, “spiritual” and “psychological”, and “mind”. Fear and suspicion of psychological counseling may stem from ignorance of “mental illness” and fear of being treated as “mentally abnormal” and psychological problems as “psychopathic” and “thought problems. “thought problems”. Under the influence of the stigma effect of mental illness, many minor problems are hidden and allowed to develop without timely intervention, and eventually they often develop into serious problems. In fact, psychological counseling is one of the best ways to promote human growth and development, an effective way to prevent psychological disorders, and a sure way to improve the quality of life and achieve success in life. Based on the principle of confidentiality, a psychologist will help you better deal with the problems that are troubling you, regulate your emotions, and work to achieve your intended goals. Let’s say you don’t have a heart condition, will you get one because you went to the cardiologist for a checkup? Myth #6 Counseling shouldn’t charge or have to charge less In the counseling process, what the counselor puts in is mostly intangible, which may give rise to the misconception that counseling doesn’t cost much, plus it’s a helping business, so it shouldn’t or have to charge less. However, the growth of a qualified counselor requires the payment of formal schooling fees in addition to the high cost of occasional professional training, and the cost in time and energy is immeasurable, for which counseling must be charged. From another point of view, the improvement of psychological problems relies heavily on the participation and change of the visitor, and paying the visitor to pay more attention to the opportunity of counseling can better ensure the quality of counseling. Conclusion: As a person who helps visitors identify themselves, rebuild their habits, and get support to get rid of their problems, a counselor is like a “locksmith” who can give keys to certain locks and then help them open the “knots” in their hearts. Counseling is a continuous and difficult process of change, and the effect of counseling is often related to the personality and life experience of the visitor, just like an iceberg that has been sealed for a long time, without strong motivation to change and constant determination, it is difficult to melt the ice. Accept the help of a counselor and give yourself a chance to change your fate!