As children grow up, we need to be more attentive to their psychological needs. This is because a child’s sense of security is often developed in childhood. The attitude and attention of parents towards their children often plays a crucial role. A child does not express himself at a young age, for example, he wants a hug from his mother and is likely to pamper himself and hug himself by bumping himself and smashing things to get his parents’ attention. However, parents think that their children are too naughty and punish them, and as a result, they let their children think that their parents do not like them and become cautious. Some children also want to get their parents’ approval when they make small achievements, but their parents ignore them because of other things, so the child forms the idea that “parents don’t care about them, so what they do is useless”. In the long run, the child will form a distrust of others and doubt their own people, so as parents we must understand and understand the child’s intentions in a timely manner, actively focus on the child, and give the child the “love” they want in a timely manner. In this way, children will often laugh and cry less, be cheerful, lively and exploratory, and like to try to approach new things, new situations and even strangers, all of which help children to form positive emotions, develop self-confidence, bravery, dare to explore personality traits, and promote the child’s intellectual development, and develop a good interpersonal concept. Cultivating intimate attachment is a major task in early childhood psychological development, and a good attachment relationship is a prerequisite for the formation of a sense of security. So how do you develop your child’s sense of security? Be a sensitive mom Research shows that the sensitivity of the mother is an important feature in distinguishing secure attachment from insecure attachment. If a mother responds to her child’s signals in a timely, consistent and appropriate manner, and hugs her child gently and often, the security of the attachment between the mother and child will tend to develop in a positive direction. Therefore, in order for a child to form a good attachment and a sense of security, it is necessary to be a sensitive mother, to correctly understand the signals sent by the baby and to respond appropriately. For example, when a child suddenly throws a tantrum, he or she wants the attention of an adult. A child who draws an abstract picture but insists on telling you about it wants your affirmation. This is a time when parents should cooperate rather than hinder the activities their babies are doing. For example, you stop what you are doing to listen patiently and respond positively to what your child is saying about his drawing. When deciding whether to interrupt your baby’s ongoing activity, consider whether your baby will accept it first; when you must interrupt your baby’s ongoing activity, be sure to use a gentle hand and not force your baby to stop immediately. In addition, for the child’s emotional changes, parents should catch them in time and make the necessary emotional guidance, patient listening, support and encouragement. If the mother is negligent in managing the child (leaving the child in an uneasy state such as hungry, thirsty, cold, wet, etc.), or is unwilling to play with the child, foster the child in the grandparents’ home, or even leave the child cold, then the child may have difficulty forming good attachments with people and gaining a sense of security, and psychological development may be delayed or even develop autistic tendencies. Active attention to the baby In daily life, the mother should smile, hug and kiss the child’s little cheeks often in various life scenes and opportunities to take care of the child (such as games, bathing, chatting). Actively communicate with the child, so that the treasure child can always feel the care and love of the mother, so that the child can feel the safety and warmth of their living environment. In mother-child interactions, mothers should use patient and gentle language to communicate with their children, encourage and support their children to play alone, such as by gradually extending the time and distance that mothers leave through hide-and-seek, so that babies know that their mothers will come back. The mother should treat the child like an adult (don’t have the idea of a small child) with friendly interactions, such as smiling, nodding, taking the initiative to greet and talk affectionately. If the mother is indifferent to the baby’s signals for a long time and her attitude towards the baby changes, then the baby will be conflicted and contradictory inside and will be overwhelmed by her mother’s love. Touch your baby, talk to your baby more You can gently touch your child’s body with your hand when he or she is playing or going to sleep, from forehead to the back of the head, from head to feet, and then from the center of the body to the front of the hands and feet, with soft and slow movements, so that the child can feel his or her mother’s caress, which leads to the creation of attachment. You can also play with your child while talking to him or her to familiarize him or her with his or her mother’s voice. When the child achieves a little bit of success, the mother should encourage more praise, so that the child feels that the mother is paying attention to him or her, and is fond of him or her. In contrast, mothers usually don’t like physical contact and hate to hold their babies, so the child will have pent-up emotions that the mother doesn’t like them. Behaviors such as aggression, venting, and sometimes negative, oppositional and rejecting behaviors will occur. Every child is an angel given to the family by God, they need our care and love. Parents need to let their children know that the world is a good and safe place. Only when a child has a sense of security in the outside world can he have good relationships and strong motivation to develop. Only then will the child be able to become truly talented and virtuous and be a productive person. Good interpersonal relationships is an important element in the construction of a harmonious society, but also a person into society, the premise of survival and development, social phobia is a hindrance to our interpersonal relationships, seriously affecting our normal interaction with people a psychological disorder. It seriously endangers people’s mental health.