Learning, throughout our life; how to learn, is a problem that both children and parents have to face. Why do children dislike learning, or even avoid learning? How can parents reward their children scientifically? How can we help our children when they have learning problems? At present, there are three main types of learning problems for teenagers: lack of motivation, learning anxiety and learning difficulties. 1, lack of motivation type We do everything, interest is very important to us. The desire to learn is the direct motivation to learn. Therefore, cultivating students’ desire for knowledge is one of the important measures to stimulate learning motivation. Human needs have basic needs and growth needs: the pursuit of basic needs will continue if they are not met, for example, hunger in that the search for food does not stop until food is available, but once basic needs are met, the intensity of the activity diminishes. Curiosity and exploration are the most primitive intrinsic motivation for human beings to learn, which is innate and does not need to be acquired. People who like to learn enjoy learning because they learn something new and become addicted to it, and most intellectual subject motivation stems from the attractiveness of the subject itself. In contrast, monetary rewards are external motivation, and they transform the original intrinsic motivation into extrinsic motivation, so despite the monetary rewards given by his parents, Xiao Zhong still lacked interest in learning. In addition, those who lack motivation are prone to early love, Internet addiction, alcohol and drug abuse, and drug dependence. What to do: When external rewards fail to foster Xiao Zhong’s interest in learning, he should instead reinforce his instinctive pleasure that comes from curiosity and exploration, from basic needs to growth needs, from extrinsic motivation to intrinsic motivation. Parents should see their children’s progress and give timely and pertinent evaluations, which will also help to reinforce the results and make their children feel the pleasure they get after exploring and learning. 2, learning anxiety type Motivation and interest are the best teachers of learning. Motivation includes internal motivation and external motivation. External motivation includes: reinforcement motivation (such as money, food, test scores, competition rankings, rewards and punishments, etc.), achievement motivation (such as the pursuit of success motivation and failure avoidance motivation), and goal design theory (such as goals and directions moderate and achievable through effort). Internal motivation, on the other hand, includes attribution theory, self-efficacy theory, and self-worth theory. After Xiao Hui was transferred from a regular class to a key class, her sense of self-worth decreased due to the drop in her ranking, which is what people usually call the “big pool and small fish effect” (meaning that she was a big fish in the small pool of the regular class and became a small fish after she was transferred to the big pool of the key class, which is actually the same size as both.) Xiao Hui attributed the cause to her own uselessness, and became significantly anxious, affecting her learning and in turn aggravating her anxiety. How to respond: Learn to make reasonable attributions, guide children to attribute their success in learning to their own abilities, attribute their failure in learning to their lack of hard work, let Xiao Hui see that her ranking has dropped because of her ranking in the key class, rather than her actual grades have dropped, from intrinsic motivation to extrinsic motivation, which is conducive to enhancing self-worth and easing learning anxiety. 3, learning difficulty type Just as fever can raise white blood cells and improve the body’s resistance, psychological symptoms are equally functional. Xiaoqin’s abdominal pain, diarrhea, vomiting, and headache are somatic manifestations of emotional symptoms, and their persistence must be such that the “benefit” Xiaoqin receives is much greater than the physical pain of abdominal pain, and obviously this “benefit” is the ability to stop going to school and use psychological symptoms to This “benefit” is obviously the possibility of not going to school and using the psychological symptoms to fulfill her own repressed unconscious wishes. How to deal with it: Since this symptom exists because it has a function, the way to deal with it is to make it dysfunctional. This is done by forcing the person to go to school when he or she has abdominal pain, diarrhea, vomiting, headache, etc., and by enduring the abdominal pain on his or her own without any help. When there is no physical discomfort on a certain day, he can stop going to school, and so on, the symptoms lose their original function (he can stop going to school), and the abdominal pain, diarrhea, vomiting, and headache gradually disappear. In addition, common clinical psychological disorders that cause learning difficulties include autism, mental retardation, anxiety, depression, etc. Parents and teachers should identify them in time to prevent delayed treatment from affecting the child’s learning.