Too many people do not understand depression, have misunderstandings about depression, and thus take an incorrect attitude towards people with depression around them, even if they are well-intentioned, but to some extent they actually aggravate each other’s distress. 1. The opposite of depression is not “happiness”, just like I am not unhappy. The opposite of depression is “vitality”, because my body is trapped by the disease, resulting in my life is also like being trapped, my body seems to be drained of energy, resulting in my life is also like being drained. So don’t say “be happy” or “think happy” to a depressed person, it’s not his mood that causes him to be depressed, being happy and thinking happy will not alleviate his pain, not to mention that most depressed people have already lost What’s more, most depressed people have lost the mental adjustment mechanism of “happy and open”. 2, because of the first, so do not judge a person happy or not to be depressed, the two can not be equated. “You are so amusing all day, how can you be depressed,” such a judgment is a complete misinterpretation. Depression is a disease, not a pessimistic mood, not pretentiousness, not posturing, but a broken function of managing emotions, the brain is unable to secrete energetic factors. So do not say to depressed patients “what you can depressed, I’m still depressed” such words, you will say to a cancer patient “what you can tired of sad, I’m still tired of sad”? 4, depression is a disease, is a disease to take medication. It’s true that some people have mild depression and get over it, but for the vast majority of depressed patients carrying is not a solution, it is not a disease that can be fought with the will. The external manifestations of depression are very complex, and a pessimistic and depressed state of mind is certainly a symptom, but more often than not, it is also expressed through physical symptoms, such as dizziness and weakness. So don’t dismiss the possibility of depression by not having psychological symptoms but only physical symptoms. 6. Don’t ask depressed people “Why are you depressed? “Many people cannot find the exact cause of depression, just like cancer patients do not know why they have cancer. 7, depressed people’s emotional control will be worse than normal people, in addition to often do not want to talk, from time to time will not be able to resist emotional outbursts, temper tantrums, I hope we can understand, for this emotional out of control depressed people themselves are also very distressed. 8, depression is a disease, do not say to depressed patients, “this is not a good thing, there is nothing to say everywhere” such words. Depression is a common disease, 11% of people have different degrees of depression symptoms, there is no shame, no shame, “talk” will relieve the mental pressure of depressed people. It’s as if I spend my days flirting with my depression in a comical tone, on the one hand to relieve my own stress, and on the other hand I hope that through my flirting, I can let people know that depression is a disease, what kind of disease depression is, and not to have any prejudice against it. 9. For depressed people, any mental burden as light as a feather can bring unbearable psychological pressure. Social activities can be stressful, such as gatherings with unfamiliar people, excessive attention from others can be stressful, such as family concerns about marital status, sudden changes in life can be stressful, such as the departure of a pet raised since childhood. These stresses are really erratic for ordinary people, but the depressed person really doesn’t have the strength to combat even the slightest of these negative emotions, which can push him deeper and deeper into a mental rut. Don’t force them to do anything, a peaceful environment is very important for depressed people. 10, depressed people’s loneliness and despair often come from the outside world’s misunderstanding or belittlement. The outside world does not understand that you are really sick and that this illness is complicated, resulting in a lot of cynicism, which can add to the already dark life of a depressed person. To fight depression, what the patient needs is not the aspirations of the people around them, but support and encouragement, and, more simply, understanding and care.