In the process of adolescent growth, parents are very important to the formation of the child’s psychological characteristics. The desire for parental love is the deepest and most urgent psychological need of the child. Parents’ love for their children is expressed in: 1. Learn to respect. Respect the rights of the child, reasonable to meet the needs of the child. 2, learn to wait. When the child and the parents have a psychological conflict, parents should not press the situation, who is right and who is wrong, patiently communicate with the child, waiting for the child to re-understand things. 3, learn to forgive. When the child is wrong, do not move to reprimand, scold, to help the child to distinguish right from wrong, on the basis of understanding the child forgiving children. 4, learn to appreciate. Every child has his merits, to be good at finding and appreciating the merits of the child. Especially students with learning difficulties, prone to self-loathing, low self-esteem, appreciation of children’s strengths, is to enhance their self-confidence, often affirmative language “you really good”, “awesome” to give confidence. 5, learn to cooperate. Parents and children are equal in personality, the relationship to adopt a cooperative attitude, do not condescend to change the role of father and son, mother and child for the role of friends. 6, learn to encourage. Let the child grow up with constant encouragement from parents. Love is the primary factor in a child’s psychologically healthy growth, is the source of motivation for the child’s progress. The main thing in problematic families is that children lack love or are loved abnormally. Children who lack the love of their fathers and mothers differ significantly in their cognitive abilities from those of children in intact families. In the mutual love of the family, creating a natural, relaxed and pleasant psychological atmosphere, parents who do this, family defects can be corrected and intact families will become more dynamic become more perfect. The child will be able to grow up healthily and will be creative. Nowadays, it is a common phenomenon to have high expectations of children. As parents, it is important to understand their children and to help them keep a clear head and not to be overly ambitious, but also not to underestimate their abilities and to help them set reasonable goals. Parents should do what it takes to make their children confident and motivated, provide opportunities for them to explore and create, and satisfy their children’s desire to learn. When parents’ expectations are too high, children will find it difficult to achieve their goals and will naturally feel psychologically fearful, thus increasing their psychological burden. Parents should objectively analyze their children’s strengths, goals based on the child’s ability, the child will be down-to-earth, more realistic, less of a worry. Self-esteem is a child’s psychological need, and I hope you respect your child’s choice. Every child has the potential to become a Nobel or Edison, and I hope parents will encourage and spur their children to develop themselves in self-actualization.