The socio-historical conditions in China, for more than two decades, have resulted in a one-child rate of nearly 100% in urban areas and nearly 70% even in rural areas. The one-child policy has created a “one child per family” in which parents, grandparents and grandparents focus almost all of their attention on the child, fearing that the child will have some kind of “failure” and that he or she will fail in the future! The consequence of this excessive attention is that the child is either overly spoiled or too strict, with the consequence that the child’s mental health is in trouble. The result is that children suffer from psychological deficits in many areas. Data from psychological surveys conducted on children in more than twenty major cities across the country show a significant increase in psychological problems among children. More than 13% of children have psychological problems, more than 80% of children have bad behavior, 11% of children have depression and low self-esteem, nearly 10% of children are worried and nervous, and more than 5% of children have serious mental illnesses. It is essential to give appropriate attention to children during their healthy development, but there is a limit to how much attention can be given. Excessive attention to children can cause many children to develop psychological deficits. Overprotection and care of parents and children often lead to a lack of psychological security. Overprotection and care make children feel comfortable only in the environment they are familiar with, so that they can mentally relax themselves and show their true self, i.e., the natural nature of the individual, in order to feel physically and mentally happy; and once the environmental conditions change, even small changes, children will feel unable to adapt, unable to cope, feel uncomfortable, and even produce anxiety, irritability, autism and other adverse psychological reactions, which is The individual’s negative stress response to the environment, its participation in the group’s behavior is limited, feedback back, and even form the individual for similar changes in the bad habitual stress response, thus producing mental disorders. For example, conflict among children is conducive to a psychological and cognitive rethinking of “egoism” or transposition, which reduces egoism and forces children to think about their own conflicts with others, so that they can learn to put themselves in the shoes of others and learn to adopt their own views. This will reduce egoism and force you to think about the conflicts between you and others, so that you can learn to see things from other people’s point of view and learn to adopt their views. Excessive reassurance often leads to children facing greater dangers in the future and having no way to adapt, resulting in more serious psychological problems. 2. Causes psychological and behavioral abnormalities in children: Overprotective parents tend to lead to emotional disorder, abnormal psychological reactions, and disorderly behavior. For example, some parents forbid their children from playing (interacting) with certain children for fear that they will be “bullied” by other children, making it difficult for their children to communicate with others, thus creating a sense of isolation and refusing to interact with others normally. Children become Internet addicts because they want to escape from the lonely reality through the virtual world of the Internet. Other children are cared for in every way at home, but in the process of interacting with their classmates and other children, they do not receive the appropriate care and cannot satisfy the need for the care they are accustomed to, and become depressed. For example, some children who are overly pampered at home and whose excessive demands are often met, may become violent outside the home if their unjustified demands are denied and resort to violent behavior in an attempt to have their demands met in this way. In short, children who receive excessive attention at home are more likely than other children to develop various psychological and behavioral abnormalities, thereby reducing their ability to adapt to their environment. Parents, out of excessive care for their children, often tell their children what they may encounter in the process of growing up and teach them the “right” way to cope early, so that children, to some extent, become “precocious”. The children, in a way, become “forewarned”. There are some things that are advantageous to teach children in advance, but there are some things that children need to discover on their own and seek to accumulate experience in order to develop the ability to respond to changes in their environment. Children who are “forewarned” are more likely to develop a precocious mentality, to dive into the next stage of their growth process prematurely, and to do or think about things that are incompatible with their age, causing harm to their physical and mental health. 4. May stifle children’s imagination A person’s creativity comes not only from the knowledge he acquires, but more importantly from the imagination he develops during childhood. Parents always do their best to teach their children as much as possible. It is well known that human knowledge consists of two parts: indirect experience from books and direct experience, which is the source and direct trigger of imagination and creativity. Trying to impart all knowledge to children will stifle their ability to generate imagination and eventually lead to high scores and low performance. 5. Decline in children’s physical quality: Because parents are always afraid of their children’s injuries, they try to reduce or avoid pro-nature behaviors, resulting in a decline in children’s athletic ability and resistance to disease, thus, making the overall physical quality of children poor. The body, brain and mind are all part of the same organism, and limitations in one of these factors can affect the overall development of the whole organism. Reduced physical activity leads to weak willpower, which can lead to doubts about one’s abilities and even low self-esteem. Physical and mental health is not only influenced by biological factors, but also by environmental factors that have a direct impact on the psychology of the population. Epidemiology and psychosomatic medicine believe that the onset and maintenance of disease has an initial psychological component; from an epidemiological perspective, psychological deficits are no less important than infectious diseases in causing disease. The right choice is to consider and deal with the problem from the long-term perspective of the child’s life: to respect the natural laws of the child’s growth, to respect the child’s independence, and to give appropriate satisfaction to the child’s legitimate demands.