When a pair of young people, dressed in the latest fashion, entered the consulting room, it was obvious that the two were still fighting with each other. If I hadn’t been there, my colleagues in the next room would have complained. I gave them a pause gesture, telling them not to get bored, and that they should avoid talking at the same time for the time being, and continue to narrate one by one. Even so, while one of them was talking, the other would interject a few words at one time or another. It turns out that the two of them were university classmates and had already gained love in the ivory tower before they got their diplomas. After graduation, they went to work in the same city and finally tied the knot a year ago. However, after marriage, they both felt that the other had changed. They often had arguments over some trivial matters. Xiaohua, the wife, is not as gentle as before, and although her mouth is still talking like before, she has become a nagging, rambling person in the ears of her husband, Ming. Xiao Hua feels that Ah Ming is not as generous and diligent as before, by time is also buried in the study to surf the Internet, play computer, no longer take the initiative to do housework, let alone accompany themselves to the shopping mall. Finally, they coincidentally asked: is marriage really the grave of love? ”Marriage is the tomb of love”, I don’t know who first uttered this phrase. Although everyone is reluctant to believe in this aphorism, there are many people with their own experiences constantly leave notes for it. To break its magic and make our love last forever, we must analyze how marriage becomes the grave of love. After walking into the hall of marriage, many newlyweds will enjoy themselves in the world of two and keep this joy for some time. Before marriage is the overall vision of life, is not to seriously consider the specific details, after marriage is bound to return to the reality of life, facing the trivialities and worries of life. Before marriage, under the effect of the halo, we focus on each other’s strengths and strengths, and can ignore each other’s problems and shortcomings, and even find reasonable excuses for ourselves. After marriage, the halo disappears and the person exposed in front of us is a complete person, the other party’s strengths and strengths become a matter of course, while the faults and flaws become the best dream fire point for us to vent our inner worries. Before marriage, the two parties are just short gatherings, cultural backgrounds, family customs, and do not attract our attention more. After marriage, these potential conflicts come to the surface and require us to spend more time and energy to bond. In the process of falling in love, as soon as we find a partner we like, we will hold on to it for fear of losing it, always trying to gauge each other’s wishes and try to win each other’s hearts. After marriage, you think that the rice is cooked, the stone in your heart is finally put down, the relationship between the two no longer need to work hard, you can let nature take its course and act according to your own will. In these factors, many people do not introspect, but put the responsibility on the other side, only to complain, and as a result, missed many opportunities, and finally with their own tears to verify the aphorism.