First describe an incident, a two-year-old baby for the first time to play point-and-shoot pen, found that this pen can point in the book singing and telling stories, very happy, the mother quietly sitting beside the baby to watch the child himself with the pen aimlessly pointing around happy. The baby unintentionally turned the pages of the book, and then found how to point the book with the pen, the pen can not make all kinds of wonderful sounds, so the baby was very angry to drop the pen on the ground, at this moment, the mother began to fury, began to scold the child: “How can you be so rude, how can you just lose your temper when you are not happy?” The baby cries even louder and sadder from the mother’s scolding. The mother’s voice became even higher: “No crying! Do the wrong thing and still cry!” The crying became louder and the scolding finally escalated to beating the child, who finally stopped crying. It seems to be solved, the mother used the force to suppress the child, if this kind of things accumulate, to the child can find themselves in charge of the time, rebellion, confrontation, disgust to parents, children do not listen to parents, these phenomena will appear. Recently, several parents have asked me why their children don’t listen to them. Why can’t we carry out the plans we have discussed with our children? Because we don’t have authority in front of our children. So what is the problem in such an incident? How can we solve the problem so that our children will be convinced? Friends, you must be thinking, what is the problem of such a matter? How to solve the problem so that the child will be convinced. First of all, we must assess the child’s ability, we often take it for granted that children should think like we think, but I do not know like this baby, if he knows how to use the point-and-shoot pen? Would he still throw a tantrum and drop the pen on the floor? So we as parents first see the phenomenon, first do not rush to freak out and blame, but to think about why the child appeared this phenomenon, how we can help children to avoid it! Just like this mother why not help the child to learn together with the point-and-shoot pen. So do not use the requirements of adults to require children. Secondly, every child is the most important one in the attributes of people as senior animals tend to avoid harm, children are instinctive ideas, the most essential purpose of children is to make themselves happy, will find ways to make themselves happy, so we parents should be more guidance, tell the child what is the right approach, rather than first scold. Correct problem solving is much more useful in the long run than forced suppression of seeming submission. We are all first time parents and expect to grow together!