Elementary and middle school students are still in the immature stage of their personality. If a child of this age has “problems”, such as not loving to learn, lying and fighting, Internet addiction, etc., it must be related to the parents. My words have the following three meanings: First, the child’s personality comes from the parents’ genetic heritage, just like the looks come from the parents. If one or both parents have bad habits such as impatience, emotional instability, aversion to learning, immaturity of personality, smoking, drinking and gambling, they will be passed on to the child. Of course, all the good qualities will also be inherited. Second: In addition to heredity, the early years of the family atmosphere and education model will give the child a deep imprint, such imprint if it is defective, to school is not the teacher with good education discipline can offset the transformation, after all, the child in school 7 ~ 8 hours, at home also more than 10 hours. Third: learning ability of each child is different, emotional control ability, the ability to receive people is a thousand people. Therefore, for children with “problems”, my advice to parents is: first, parents should be a role model for their children, first correct their bad habits and bad temper, and then educate their children; second, the couple’s educational philosophy is not the same when the child can not conflict, only behind the child’s back to discuss, so as to avoid the long-term past with the child noisy, so that the child Third, do not always take the best children and our children than, then our children will be hopeless; in fact, as long as the child every little progress and his previous state than, will feel hopeful, have A good feeling and a good emotional state will generate “positive energy” for both the child and the parents. Finally, if your child still seems to be acting out, you may want to bring him or her to our specialists for a checkup, and if you find any signs of psychological disorders, you will be guided on how to diagnose and treat them in a timely manner.