The relationship with children changes somewhat as they enter old age. As children have grown up, some of them may have already started their own families and have their own children, and they are no longer just children in the past. Therefore, parents can no longer get along with their adult children as they did when they were small, nor can they reprimand them at every turn and order them around. First of all, we must help our children to solve the problem of worldview, outlook on life and values. The love of children, everyone has, each parent love their children; out of blue and better than blue is the expectation of each parent to their children, which parents do not want their children than their own more promising. But only such expectations is far from enough, treat their children but also to use scientific methods to guide them, otherwise it will be contrary to expectations. We, the older generation, have experienced the storms of life and have tasted the sweet and sour of life. The understanding of life is more profound. Since ancient times, anyone who can achieve a career has always gone through some trials and tribulations. In addition to helping their adult children with their outlook on life, worldview and values, parents need to adjust their mindset, face reality and pay attention to ways and means when dealing with their children. In a certain sense, entering old age means a major shift in social roles. Although one may have held higher positions or important jobs in the past and had a high status in society, after entering old age, these may no longer exist and one’s children have become the backbone of society. This is true in society, and it can also be true in the family. If we fail to face this reality and adjust our mindset in time to achieve a psychological role change, it will be difficult to get along with our children and achieve our goals. Parents need to have more of a democratic atmosphere in the family so that their children can be more receptive to their views. More democratic atmosphere is to put down the shelf, something not only to discuss with the old partner, especially in the family some important issues, more attention to listen to the children’s ideas and suggestions, give children to respect. If you can do this, it will help to maintain their own position in the minds of their children. As the saying goes, if you respect someone a foot, they respect you a foot. Such a rule will also show its power in the family. After the children become adults, for the children to choose what kind of work, choose what kind of object, how to spend their income, we as parents had better only to provide some reference, to guide, rather than to interfere, or even to take over, otherwise it will be counterproductive. If your children have reached the age where they can find someone to marry, then it means that your children’s education has been basically set, and the next focus should be on the children’s marriage education, which is of course the best kind of education that is subtle and taught by example. A family, mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is the most difficult to deal with, here are a few suggestions for you: a. When the son and daughter-in-law quarrel, you should not go in to persuade, the couple quarrel no big deal. At the same time, in order not to leave the young minds of the grandchildren when the parents quarrel that terrible psychological shadow, you can take the grandchildren out, or to accompany them on shopping trips, or to buy things for the grandchildren to eat buy toys to play, in your estimation, the son and daughter-in-law have been exhausted or should be extinguished when you take the grandchildren back. One son and daughter-in-law quarrel without an audience, they naturally will not have a very high interest in fighting a protracted war; two husband and wife quarrel is originally a bedside argument and the end of the bed, you go to persuade the fight but will lead to fire; three you take the grandson out for a walk can also be a clean, out of sight, out of mind. Second, if your son and daughter-in-law back to your home for dinner Even if you are busy again with your hands and feet, busy, if your daughter-in-law did not take the initiative to help you must not mouth complaints, do not criticize their daughters-in-law lazy, or they will come less and less in the future. At the same time, you must remember not to instruct your husband to help you work in the face of your daughter-in-law, or help you pick vegetables and wash dishes, or help you prepare meals, especially in the face of your daughter-in-law should never yell at their husbands or pointing fingers, and not at will to abuse and deride their husbands, because, parents are the best teaching materials, what you do your daughter-in-law will absolutely copy to your baby son. Third, the son and daughter-in-law quarrel if you let you comment and you can not avoid when you better take the simplest and most direct and effective method, which is to severely criticize their own children, you do not care whether their children have a point or your daughter-in-law has a point, the couple quarrel there is no absolute right or wrong. You just have to help your daughter-in-law in a clear-cut manner, as long as you can make her dissipate her anger first. At the same time, this way you can also let your children know the importance of mutual humility between husband and wife, but also let your daughter-in-law feel that she is not being discriminated against or treated unfairly in your family, so that she feels the important position in the family, perhaps, your criticism can make your daughter-in-law feel a kind of obvious favoritism towards themselves. Because, how much more aggravating their son will not lead to the couple’s separation from each other. Fourth, if your daughter-in-law is willing to let you help them with the children you should feel very happy, generally speaking, daughter-in-law will always seek help from their own mother in difficulty, unless it is absolutely necessary she will never take the initiative to ask you for help, so in this case you should be obliged to help your daughter-in-law solve the practical difficulties, do not find all kinds of excuses to avoid a lifetime of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law divide. Of course, if your daughter-in-law simply does not want you to help them with the children, or she does not think it is necessary for you to worry about the labor, then there is no need for you to take the initiative to ask for help, to save yourself the trouble of ending up in a discordant situation. Five, never criticize their sons in front of their daughters-in-law Its criticism of their sons at home how lazy, lack of due diligence, lack of the necessary responsibility, lack of filial piety, lack of due motivation, lack of the virtue of mutual modesty, wild-heartedness and lack of learning efforts, and so on, which will make the daughter-in-law feel upset. You know, your daughter-in-law is because your son feels good to marry him, so although you criticize your son, but your daughter-in-law will feel that you are scolding, will make your daughter-in-law and you will never eliminate the psychological gap. Sixth, do not interfere with your son and daughter-in-law’s concept of consumption You know, they spend the money they earn, they eat, drink and play is also in the accumulation and cultivation of their feelings, they enjoy their lives should also be no excuse, so if they occasionally appear to plan out of control, if you have the ability to help them a little, and if you do not have the financial ability should be more mouth shut, you let them You let them solve their own economic crisis, you let them bear the consequences of their own planning mistakes, after all, they have their own concept of consumption, you should not criticize them because they are not used to see. How to get along with your children is a study that can never be graduated, and to make foreign daughters-in-law or son-in-law agree with your ideas, to be able to get along with you, that is an extremely profound study, therefore, as elders can not use dogmatic traditional ideas to require children, but also to update the concept from time to time, more should be up to date.