A 14-year-old girl wrote in her suicide note: “My death was forced by my parents, who made my life worse than death and could not continue to live. I won’t let them go to hell. The police will convict them.” A 30-year-old man faced with his girlfriend who proposed to break up with him ranted like crazy: “If you dare to break up with me, I will destroy the hopes of your whole family, so that your whole family will suffer for the rest of your life. I only give you two ways now, either stay with me or hurt each other.” Everyone has angry feelings. Some people take out their anger over someone on innocent people; some people pretend that nothing is wrong and then inflict revenge on the person who hurt them; some people take out their anger on themselves and they can’t face the person who made them angry, so they smoke and drink, overeat, or blame themselves mercilessly. If we don’t find healthy ways to acknowledge our anger and express it, it will find an inappropriate, unhealthy, and even counterproductive outlet for itself. Unless we can control our anger, it will wreak havoc on our lives. Anger is a necessary emotion and an important one. It is a signal that something is wrong with our relationships, the environment we are in, or ourselves. Unfortunately, even though many aspects of our lives are now less overwhelming, our tolerance for anger has diminished. We are freer than our ancestors to express emotions such as love, affection, and fear, but our tolerance for anger is much more limited. Anger can make a huge difference in the world. It can be the catalyst that triggers riots, revolts against injustice, and the creation of new institutions and new social organizations. Anger gives strength to those who are ruled by tyranny, filling their bodies with courage to bravely resist their oppressors. Anger can also wreak havoc, perhaps through war, prolonged family struggles, and the separation of spouses. Words spoken out of anger can sever the strongest bonds. Repressed anger from childhood can lead the most loving parents to inflict violence on their own children, and continue this vicious cycle of domestic violence in the next generation. Anger will eat away at your self-esteem and motivation and confidence in yourself if you turn it on yourself with a sense of guilt and shame. Anger that has been suppressed and denied for years will deteriorate from depression and lead to personality distortion until it one day explodes and even kills others. Since anger has such good and bad possibilities, it is important that we know as much as we can about it. When we were children, we should have been taught how to avoid unhealthy ways of expressing anger and know how to express it in a positive way. In reality, this is not the case. We are all prevented from expressing anger, and we are also prevented from expressing other so-called negative emotions, including fear, sadness, guilt, and jealousy. We are not led to deal with and express anger in a positive way, nor are we told that expressing anger in a positive way can change the environment and change the world. If we are to learn to deal with anger in a healthy way, we need to face it head on, learn to accept it, learn to transform it into motivation, gain strength from it, say goodbye to past resentments, and create a healthier, more balanced life.