The “two-child era” is coming, more and more children have the opportunity to establish and feel the “brotherhood”. However, some pediatricians found that after the birth of younger siblings, some of the older babies “sick” constantly, became a “regular” hospital visitors. Physical examination, testing but no disease was found. Child psychologists say that these “ailments” may be the external expression of the baby’s inner emotions. When a baby is worried that his parents’ love is being taken away from him by his siblings, parents need to be patient and accompany him, and reassure him that he is still loved. Repeated tummy aches without detecting the disease Since the beginning of winter, pediatric outpatient clinics have been seeing waves of patients. There are a few small patients who are very special: their medical records are very thick, and they run to the hospital every now and then, mostly because of repeated “stomach pains” or “dizziness” or “foot pains”. Most of the visits were for recurrent “stomach pain” or “dizziness” or “foot pain. However, the physical examination and tests done at each visit did not reveal any illnesses. After the birth of a little brother or sister, the older brother or sister began to have “temper tantrums”, “easily irritated”, “do not like to eat” and so on. The situation, followed by a variety of illnesses. After analysis, the performance of these little sick people may be related to the arrival of new family members. ”The child wants to attract more attention from the parents.” When it comes to the problem of older babies in families with two children, there are many children who have been exposed to strong mental stimulation and have headaches, difficulties in movement and speech, but the examination shows that there is nothing physically wrong. The problem is not physical. He explained that this condition used to be called “hysteria”, but now it is generally called “dissociative disorder” or “conversion disorder”. In simple terms, it is a conflict within the heart, but not in the form of emotional expression, but in a variety of physical symptoms. If the condition is caused by the birth of a younger sibling, the older child may be experiencing “sibling rivalry”. The child is trying to attract more attention from his parents, but he is not pretending to be sick on purpose; it is possible that his internal anxiety is causing the physical symptoms. Therefore, instead of blaming the child, parents should be understanding and provide them with companionship and attention. Most children want the attention of their parents, but they always deny it. If you ask them directly if they feel that it is unfair to them because their parents are spending more time taking care of their younger siblings, they will say no, that they are rationally unaware of their deep psychological needs. Sometimes, the child even shows the opposite of what is inside. For example, he is trying to take care of his younger siblings, but he is actually very sad. It is important to send a clear signal that mom and dad still love you. This is not a problem brought about by the second child, just because the arrival of the “second child era” has made many families feel the problem of emotional changes in their children more intensely. In fact, children grow up to go through the socialization process, if the socialization process is not perfect or interrupted, there will be emotional problems or behavioral problems. Lin Yin pointed out that in many one-child families, the child is the sole focus of parents and even grandparents, the child has no competition. When he gets out of the home, to school, will find themselves not exactly the “center”. He will be frustrated by this process, and then learn and grow. With the advent of the two-child era, more and more families are preparing for or have already welcomed a second child, which changes the traditional 4+2+1 family model. For children, this also changes their “all in one” status. If a child has a younger sibling before he or she starts school, the socialization process is slightly accelerated. The child may think that because he has a younger sibling, his parents spend less time with him and therefore do not love him. At this point, if he gets the clear message that his parents still love him, he will be able to cope with it very easily. Therefore, parents need to consciously provide psychological guidance to the eldest child. When parents are planning to have a second child, they can try to gradually inform their baby through books, stories, games with children, etc.: you will have a brother/sister. In daily life, you can insert hints, if you have a brother / sister, the big baby’s life or behavior will be like. At the same time, you can take your baby to visit families that already have two children to get close to the baby and learn how other children get along with their younger brothers/sisters. How can I tactfully deal with my older child’s emotions? The birth of a second child often takes up a lot of parents’ time and energy, and it is inevitable that the older child will be lost and anxious, so it is important for parents to deal with the older child’s emotions tactfully. 1, understand the anxiety and disobedience of the baby. Parents in the big baby because of eating the second baby jealousy when he told him: “Mom and Dad love you very much, but you do not do it right, if you can …… will be better.” When adults feeding, holding, and teasing the second baby, tell the first baby: “You were like this when you were little, and everyone loved you.” 2, create opportunities to spend more time with the eldest baby. As much as possible, both children are with their parents, to avoid sending the first baby elsewhere. In the second baby sleep or when conditions permit, strive to spend as much time as possible with the big baby alone together, talking, playing with toys, telling stories, playing outside, etc., to reduce the big baby “because of the arrival of the second baby and parents are occupied” feeling. 3, do not compare between the two children. The temperament characteristics and developmental stages of children are different, and their behavior patterns are different, so it is easy to compare the two children to destroy the feelings, especially to avoid accusations and reprimands in person. 4, let the big baby participate in the process of taking care of the second baby. For example, under the condition of safety, and the big baby together to the second baby to do touch, let the big baby hug the second baby, read to the second baby to read children’s songs, help to take some small things and so on. This process, to give the big baby full of praise, so that the big baby to get a sense of accomplishment in caring for the second baby. 5, effective use of social support system. After the birth of two children, whether it is pregnancy or postpartum, the mother’s physical and mental state will be less than usual, which requires the strength of the people around, especially from the family’s love. At the same time, during this period, it is important to communicate closely with the kindergarten teacher, so that the teacher can help the baby to adjust emotionally and behaviorally.