With the liberalization of the second child policy, more and more parents are considering having a second child, but there will be many concerns, one of which is the impact on the psychology of the older children will have. Recently, a video of a boy asking his mother not to give birth to a second child has been circulating on the Internet, and the boy is crying while complaining, “Mom, I’ll put my words down here today, if you dare to give birth to a second child, I dare to die!” “I don’t want a younger sibling, you give more love to younger siblings, you don’t love me…” In fact, no matter how old the older children are, before and after the birth of the second child will experience a psychological gap, forced to adapt from “all are mine ” to “everything has to be shared with others”. Older children may feel that their importance has been replaced, that their exclusive parent has been taken away, or even “abandoned” by their parents, resulting in aggravation, anxiety, anxiety, and some abnormal behavior. Younger children may cry and get irritated when things go wrong to show their insecurity; they may become paranoid about what they have and don’t like to share their things with others; some children may pinch their younger siblings or ravage their faces to express their dissatisfaction; they may become rebellious and do all kinds of wrong things to attract the attention of adults and make people spend their time to These will make parents exhausted and headache. Other children are extraordinarily well behaved, tolerating everything, sacrificing themselves to meet the demands of their parents, who usually think that the child understands, “younger brother/sister is younger than you, you have to give in to them”. But ignore the fact that this can lead to the child thinking that only by obeying their parents’ decisions will they keep their position, and therefore their parents’ love is conditional on only behaving well and not making mistakes. So much so that when they grow up they will get used to lying, irresponsibility, etc. to avoid the mistakes they make. They are also more afraid of making mistakes than other children, have a negative personality and are anxious all day long. In this period after the birth of the second child, the older child will change a lot, parents need to carefully observe, careful response, patient care, to help the older child adapt to the role of older siblings. Some specific methods are as follows: 1. Spend some time alone with the older child every day. After the second child, mom and dad can divide the work, try to ensure that every day there is time alone with the older child, such as telling a bedtime story every night, continue the previous habits, gradually adapt to the new environment. 2, gentle treatment of older children’s abnormal behavior. When the older child is crying, doing something wrong or even bullying the second child, parents should not scold, that will only make the older child “abandoned” feelings reinforced, should be patient and gentle treatment, hold him tightly, gently in his ear to tell him that mom and dad love him. When he is calm, you can use the way to read picture books or tell stories, so that he understands what is right and what is wrong. 3. Involve the older child in taking care of the second child. The sense of participation can make him adapt to the role of older brother / sister faster, so that the older child also take part of the responsibility, such as making the baby happy, help the baby bath, etc., and timely praise and encouragement, so that he feels a sense of accomplishment. 4, home education as far as possible to the right thing not the right person. If a child does something wrong, the right way to handle it should make him feel that his mother’s love for him has not diminished too much and that she is criticizing him only because he really did something wrong. When two children are in conflict, parents must be fair and not just take sides with their second child.