In the blink of an eye, the winter holidays are over and primary and secondary school students are going back to school. Some children may be ready to welcome the new semester, but many children are still indulging in the holiday fun, unable to wind down, it is difficult to put into the intense study life for a while. Wu Xin, deputy chief physician of the child and adolescent psychology clinic of the Guangxi Zhuang Autonomous Region People’s Hospital, said that primary and secondary school students are prone to post-holiday syndrome after the long holidays, and many children have an aversion to school, and the clinic can see 2 to 3 of these students a day after the holidays. Wu Xin reminded that parents should proactively guide their children to adapt to the learning environment a week before the start of the school year, and adjust their children’s work and rest time to meet the new semester.
Current situation
Good children do not want to go to school
March 1 is the start of school for most primary and secondary schools, but Ms. Wu, who lives in Xixiangtang District, is worried. During the winter break, 11-year-old son Xuan Xuan often asked his classmates to play on the computer at home, playing for an afternoon. On one occasion, Ms. Wu looked closer and saw that Xuanxuan was playing the most popular “Sailor Moon” game among children. XuanXuan is a good boy, early winter vacation homework done. After doing the homework, XuanXuan started to play the game. As the start of the school year approaches, Xuan Xuan is more and more obsessed with the “Sailor Moon” game.
In recent times, Xuanxuan almost from morning to night sitting in front of the computer to play, meal time also end of the rice bowl to play. “Xuan Xuan, a few days after the start of school, can not always play like this, now should adjust the work and rest time”, Ms. Wu patiently persuaded. “Mom, you do not care, my Sailor is only 59 levels, not enough practice! Besides, there’s no point in going to school.” Xuan Xuan topped off. When Ms. Wu heard this, she was so angry that she stomped her feet and directly forced Xuanxuan’s computer to shut down. For this reason, mother and son are still in a cold war. Xuan Xuan saw his mother angry like this, but also dare not open the computer, just every day to the TV dull, listless. Ms. Wu is looking at the eyes, anxious in the heart, the child can not take heart, this can do ah?
It is no coincidence that Lily’s situation is even more serious. Lily is 12 years old, is a very good student. Because of the conflict with the same classmates last semester, a big fuss. Since then, Lily has never wanted to go to school again, often using headaches or illness as excuses, and if she is forced to go to school, she will cry, scream and pester. To make matters worse, after a period of time, Lily started to experience abdominal pain, nausea and lethargy when she arrived at school.
When she went to the hospital, it turned out that she was suffering from “anorexia”, and her parents transferred her to several schools, but the results were not obvious. The parents thought that after a good “recuperation” this winter break, Lily should be able to go to school. However, when she mentioned going to school, she cried and cried again. Lily’s parents had to send her to the hospital again for psychological counseling.
Analysis
Playfulness triggered by boredom
Wu Xin told reporters that primary and secondary school students “after the holiday syndrome” for many reasons. Among them, “after the holiday children can get more benefits” is one of the reasons for their boredom.
Once the winter break arrives, it is the Spring Festival. Many primary and secondary school students rejoice, early in the mental calculations of how to relax and happy long vacation. During the Spring Festival, children are even more playful, following their parents around to get red envelopes, or with their families to travel abroad. After all, children are children, not enough qualitative, facing the temptation of various fun games, facing the beautiful scenery, naturally will enjoy themselves, and even forget about it. So when you think about the start of school, when you are about to leave, you will become bored with school.
There is also the fact that during the Spring Festival, children are with their parents every day. Clothes, food, housing and transportation are well taken care of in all aspects. So much so that they become overly attached to their families. In addition, some elementary and middle school students will often gather together and talk about how many red envelopes they received this year. Some children from poor families have low self-esteem, feel lost, depressed and anxious all day, and do not even want to go to school.
Tips
Parents should learn to communicate with their children
Wu Xin said that more than 1 percent of school-age children and adolescents refuse to go to school, especially in children aged 6 to 7 and 10 to 12. The peak period of refusal to go to school is right after the long holidays.
Wu Xin said that children who refuse to enter school with the knowledge of their parents and school authorities or who are unable to maintain a full day of school life can damage the child’s personal and family functioning to varying degrees, leading to a decline in academic performance, social dysfunction and disrupted family relationships. According to its severity can be divided into seven levels: threatening or begging not to go to school; repeatedly appear in the morning to avoid school behavior; repeatedly “play” in the morning, need to accompany to school; occasionally do not go to school or miss school; repeatedly alternate non-attendance, absence from school; in a semester for a period of time not to go to school at all; completely long-term non-attendance may eventually lead to dropout. Wu Xin told reporters that parents should be alert when their children show symptoms of the first three levels, and timely guidance for children.
For children who already have boredom, parents should not be too anxious. At this time, parents should communicate with their children in time to understand the reasons for their children’s aversion to school, so that the right medicine can be prescribed. As parents should also give their children confidence, to let them understand that the main task after the holidays is to learn, so to properly control children to play games, watch TV, to eliminate the child’s lost psychology, so that they moderately nervous up. For children with poor independence, they should cultivate their ability to live independently and try to let them do more housework. The day before school starts, parents can prepare the new semester’s tools and clothes together with their children. On the day of the school year, parents can accompany their children to school at the same time.
In addition, parents can advise their children to establish a near-term learning goal. Generally after the Spring Festival, primary and secondary school students will learn some new knowledge, parents can ask their children to learn more new knowledge, and give appropriate incentives to help children build confidence. Wu Xin reminded parents that the long winter holidays, many children have been a little scattered, parents need to help their children adjust their biological clocks a week before the start of school, to restore the habits of school. Many children during the holidays tend to develop the bad habit of sleeping late and waking up late, parents should help their children correct this bad habit in time. You can make a “work schedule” for your child that is consistent with the work schedule of the new semester, and rest with your child according to the work schedule.
Experts remind, when the child is more serious boredom, headache, nausea, abdominal pain and other symptoms, should promptly rush to the hospital for examination.
The holiday play “crazy”, some children heard the word “study” will be listless.