1. four segments of teenagers involved in pornography
Objectively speaking, teenagers peeking at pornographic books, the problem, in fact, is not common today.
It is not because the teenagers after 00 have become honest.
Nor are they good at playing hide and seek with adults and not being discovered.
But because –
It’s too low to read yellow books.
This is the multimedia generation, this is the generation of mobile Internet, this is the generation of interactive entertainment proliferation of teenagers, read pornographic books, too low it.
I believe that even if you meet a straightforward teenager, they will not tell you that they read more, if the level is divided, it is estimated that this drop –
The initial stage, that is, the lowest and most segment is to read the yellow book, which is a group of pure beginners;
In the middle, the Dounian Mingxiu bitchy road dark into a warehouse, coupled with social media point-to-point private circle, the teenagers naturally have to give themselves some decent benefits, such as H pictures, H comics and break through the boundaries of the bottomless small games involving pornography, but anyone with a little bit of heart, how to also have a little collection;
High segment, worship the freedom and democracy of Europe and the United States and do not spare sweat to the deepest desire to discover the long-term efforts of the island love action film workers, on the Internet and mobile Internet, H animation and a variety of real love action films, rich resources like Shenhua’s coal mine, treasure are in the surface, digging a layer of floating soil, what are all at a glance.
The super first-class segment, I think I’m afraid, has begun to study the words of Liuyong and the dreams of the Red Chamber, they are the school of action, they are not satisfied with the pleasure on paper, screen and hands.
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Uncle Control, to talk about the above harsh reality, is not to tease the parents, but I hope they can have a clear understanding of the environment faced by this generation of teenagers – it is no longer the innocent age of blushing when you see the colorful cover on Popular Film. We parents need to be prepared for a whole new generation of media products to be calm enough for the tastes of teenagers!
2. you know why teenagers secretly read pornographic books?
Not secretly, do you want to openly drop out to see it?
Uncle Control is also the father of an adolescent boy, as early as when the guy was not in junior high school, the family computer will be some traces, his mother every time he stumbled upon, will be torn, Uncle Control not only to pretend to be calm, or exhorting his mother not to move, not to mention in vain. In fact, not the control of the uncle inside calm, every major event is not panic, but because the control of the uncle some handicapped, the brain inside the calculation of the methods and means that can be used, are wrong.
Uncle Control encountered things, always willing to find answers from the book, flipping around, or feel that “raising boys” this book is well said. Here is a direct recommendation for parents to see. One of the seventh chapter: how to cultivate healthy sex, especially worth reading.
After reading a few books, at least one thing is clear, teenagers secretly read some yellow books and so on, very normal, because the onset of puberty, physical development to the stage of the outbreak, testosterone secretion levels continue to rise. At this stage, by reading yellow books and pictures, look at pornography, soothe the teenagers on the various fantasies and attempts of sex, is the necessary path of teenage growth. In fact, there are more frightening it – teenage girls love to try the forbidden fruit, is not uncommon.
3. then why many parents and adults will be fussed about it?
The first reason is that parents feel that teenagers read pornographic books and masturbate too early, so they are a bit alarmed.
At present, there is a teenager at home, most of the parents after 60, 70, especially precocious individual cases do not count, slightly know this matter, it is estimated to 17, 8 years old, and the teenager in front of you in the upper grades of elementary school began, really a bit let the heart hang.
If it is a college student secretly read a few books of men’s clothing, it is estimated that parents and adults even if they find it will feel quite normal. This is similar to the feelings of mothers when they find teenagers dreaming of underwear, slightly complicated, a little worried, a little happy and proud – this guy seems to be a grown-up. The father’s heart I’m afraid there will be more pride – I wonder how many cabbages this guy will plague in the future.
In addition, the teenagers began to stubbornly ask for privacy from parents and adults, a lot of time, the teenagers are alone, who knows how far they have seen this kind of pornographic books, is not a little addicted? Is it too indulgent? Will it affect the normal growth and development of learning and body? These problems are troubling parents and adults, so they are extra worried.
4. Why do teenagers come to things so early?
Uncle Control feels that the sexual interest of this generation of teenagers, come so early, there are several reasons –
Enough rich, even a little excessive protein intake, so that teenagers are far earlier than our generation development, this is the physiological basis.
The media environment is complex and triggering factors are everywhere, which is the external environment. In the teenage years when we grew up, how many old and sophisticated young and middle-aged people saw Gong Li with red lips and white teeth on the cover of popular movie magazines, they had to blush and heart beat for half a day. In the deep woods of the northwest where Uncle Control grew up, if you can have a magazine with colorful female character drawings, it is simply comparable to the general precious collection of “Men’s Wear” in earlier years. Today’s media situation is almost the Garden of Eden for teenagers who have just started their sexual impulses. Open any video app, there are all kinds of titles and huge scale pictures and videos that make Uncle Control blush. If you follow the strict religious tradition, this is almost a degenerate generation ah.
In fact, there is another reason that parents and adults ignore – that is, parents and adults are not yet mentally prepared, in their eyes has been a tall young teenager, or a simple big baby it, how suddenly on those things between men and women so concerned about it? So, once you find the slightest hint of a teenager, the mood is stirred up a lot.
5. secretly read pornographic books, will affect health?
In fact, whether parents accept it or not, teenagers have indeed grown up, the media environment has indeed undergone a radical change, to push further, the real problem of reading pornographic books, not pornographic books, but the various potential effects that come with it –
The first and foremost, parents and adults worried about should be afraid that the yellow book is accompanied by masturbation, excessive masturbation will affect the growth and development of children, and even affect physical health.
I am not a medical expert, and I dare not say that masturbation does not affect physical development at all, but I just want parents to think rationally about this issue.
Think about how you yourself solved problems before you had a stable sexual partner, is it affecting your health?
Think about whether you yourself have had a masturbation phase, around is not a bunch of masturbation inexhaustible friends?
Most don’t, unless you have a wind and moon book that you flip around every night. The truth is that most teenage bodies are not ruined by pornography and the masturbation that comes with it.
Parents and adults are over the years and do not have to be too nervous.
6. fear of teenagers addicted to yellow reading material
I’m not a teenager anymore, I don’t know how teenagers today view those yellow books and pornography, just share a few of my own understanding –
The yellow book porn is just a condiment to accompany the meal, similar to chili, only to play a role in cultivating sexual fantasies, once the teenagers’ sexual desires are relieved, they will find the yellow book yellow plate nothing to see. Just like teenagers will not be addicted to tissue paper, they will not end up being addicted to yellow books and pornography.
If parents are afraid that teenagers are addicted to masturbation, that is another problem, and there is no relationship with pornography.
Uncle Control always believes that teenagers will eventually develop some other hobbies in addition to pornography, and eventually most teenagers will still develop in a balanced way.
7. Healthy sexual concept
On the issue of pornography, the essence is sex, not pornography. Therefore, if the parent adult is rational enough, need to communicate with the teenager, to assist the teenager to establish a correct and healthy concept of sex, have the heart can go to see “raising boys”, Uncle Control summary shared below –
As a male and have a normal sense of sexuality, not only should you not be ashamed of it, but you should have a sense of pride in it.
Sexual impulses are a necessary part of growing up, and facing them correctly is a necessary part of a teenager’s journey to manhood.
Sex is good and you will enjoy it with your life partner
Horny people – only interested in sex.
8. Develop positive hobbies
Finally, if you want to sperm teenagers’ minds not to be haunted by a variety of forbidden images, and finally can be affected by the growth and development, experience life and learning, then parents still have some homework to do, Uncle Control think roughly divided into two dimensions –
First of all, parents, try to make yourself interesting, reading, sports, travel, music, painting, movies, etc., in no particular order, are a good place to start. Uncle Control is the most respected is to read and share, and has plans to learn a musical instrument from my teenager. If parents are motivated to challenge their own potential, to be a mom and dad who never stop moving forward and love life, I believe there will be more quality communication and interaction with teenagers.
Secondly, if the parents are attentive, they can try to help the teenager discover his or her true love. Only if you find the true love of your teenager’s talent, I believe that even if the pornographic books and movies are hot, they are just a little wind and rain on the way to the teenager’s destiny to develop the most unique self.
Of course, exams make all children lose their enthusiasm for learning, and at an age when they need a lot of learning and more life experience, they are mostly a little burned out on language, math, physics, chemistry and other such studies that discover the world and the laws behind it.
But only teenagers who have truly found true love can have the ability to be immune to the powerful toxic side effects of this excessive test-taking mechanism, and only true love can make teenagers no longer satisfied with simple mechanical physical pleasures, not to mention addiction.