Self-confidence is the degree of recognition and trust in one’s own ability, which is reflected in the state of maintaining and presenting oneself. People with high self-confidence usually show their courage to show themselves and express their true feelings, attitudes and ideas directly. They are willing to try and explore new things, and are proactive and open-minded in their dealings with others. People who are weak in self-confidence often hide themselves too much and avoid expressing their true feelings, attitudes, and ideas. Avoid trying new things. Negative and withdrawn, over-sensitive. So, how does a person’s self-confidence build up? Self-confidence is built as children grow up with an understanding of themselves and their surroundings, and an understanding of things in the world. Children gradually learn about their growing ability to solve problems and meet needs through activities such as manipulating objects and taking care of things on their own, and receive positive attention from adults around them, gaining affirmation and praise, understanding their value and gaining affirmation and acceptance. Gradually, they deepen their understanding of and trust in their own abilities. Children’s perceptions of their own abilities depend on their experiences of success and failure after action and on the praise and acceptance of others. Children’s practical experiences and the responsiveness and attention of the adults around them directly influence the development of their self-confidence. If children receive positive attention from adults around them, and if adults around them always provide opportunities for children to show their strengths and talents, and accept and acknowledge their developmental nature, this will give children a great sense of security, and children’s self-recognition and acceptance will increase, which will enable children to experience parental affection and love happily as they grow up, thus stimulating children’s inner positive motivation and increasing children’s appreciation of their environment and people around them. This will enable children to grow up happily experiencing parental affection and love, thus stimulating positive intrinsic motivation and increasing children’s positive perception of and trust in their surroundings and people. On the contrary, if the adults around the child adopt a negative focus on the child’s shortcomings and deficiencies, and always look at the child as if he or she can’t do it or can’t do it well, and can’t see the child’s developmentality, this will only make the child more self-denying, self-depreciating, and distrustful of his or her own abilities; parents constantly reinforce the child’s shortcomings and deficiencies, which will make the child grow up and constantly experience the depression of denial and non-acceptance, while painfully experiencing parental affection. This only provokes fear and anger in the child and stimulates the child’s self-protective mechanism, the intrinsic negative motivation to escape. This makes children always feel that they are neither this nor that, that they are not accepted and recognized, and that they need to be protected carefully all the time. Over time, children themselves will not recognize themselves, not accept themselves, not know where their abilities lie, and not feel secure, which will also limit children’s motivation to try practical activities, show withdrawal and avoidance, and thus fail to build self-trust, and also make children more This also causes children to view the environment and people around them in a negative light. Difficulty in building self-trust and trust in the environment. This further weakens personal confidence. Therefore, what can parents do to help their children build and maintain self-confidence? First, children’s sense of security should be actively built. During the first few years of a child’s life, parents should spend more time with your child and express directly the parent’s love for the child. Make sure that children fully experience the peace and warmth and security of the human world. Through companionship and care, children will learn that they are surrounded by caring, supportive and protective parents, mothers and fathers, and other adults. Help children develop the belief that the world they live in is safe and that they are surrounded by people they can trust. Second, create opportunities for children to experience a greater sense of accomplishment. From the first day a child is born, he or she is equipped with the basic survival skills and needs to be motivated. As a child’s family, you should actively provide your child with appropriate space for development, self-expression, and opportunities for independent action so that, time after time, children have the opportunity to achieve success and gain recognition for their abilities. At the same time, we focus on developing children’s skills in various areas, including self-care and other life and learning skills, to promote and maintain the healthy development of children’s physical and mental abilities and their ability to take on more responsibilities and duties, so that children can have more opportunities to show their abilities and discover their value in their families, peers and communities, and to enhance children’s awareness and acceptance of and trust in their own abilities. In addition, compliments and praise convey adults’ recognition of children’s abilities as they grow up. Parents need to be able to identify their child’s “bright spots” and amplify and generalize them. Adults focus on the child’s strengths, strengths, achievements, and successes. Give praise, commendation and encouragement in a timely and appropriate manner. Increase the likelihood that children will repeat these “shining” behaviors. Help your child build a “bank” of strengths and attributes. Take frequent “inventories” with your child. Teach your child to appreciate and motivate himself/herself. Trust your child’s existing abilities and accept that he or she needs room to learn and develop. Provide the child with requirements and goals that are appropriate to his or her developmental level. Help and encourage children to face setbacks and difficulties positively. Parents should face their children’s shortcomings and mistakes with a positive mindset and a developmental perspective, helping their children learn to learn not only from their successes, but also from their failures and setbacks to learn the positive, positive experiences and lessons that will gradually lead to success, thus increasing their satisfaction with themselves. Listen patiently to your child’s narrative and respect his or her expression. Give children the freedom to express their views fully. Help children build mutual trust with others. Parents should actively create a family where everyone is confident – where everyone has a place and a place in life and is respected; where everyone has a positive and positive mindset, is confident and energetic, and where parents actively help their children develop such a mindset; where parents see trust, support and love as the highest values in the family and also Parents see trust, support, and love as the highest values in the family and lead their children to value them; family members, each of whom is honest and accountable for their actions. Parents lead by example, starting with themselves and encouraging their children to do the same; family members are allowed to have different views and practices among themselves. Be more willing to experiment and admit mistakes. Not forcing other members to necessarily agree with them, being able to accept the mistakes of others, and leading by example. Parents are helpful, loving and do helpful things with their children. Family members encourage each other to learn and encourage independent thinking. Listen to others’ different and novel ideas first, and affirm the positive ones rather than being dismissed as soon as they are spoken. Encourage your children to think more about different possibilities. Fully recognize the value of each person in the family, including your own. Affirm and name each member’s abilities and contributions to others. Parents should be willing to share with the family, whether it is fun or sad. Don’t just talk about the joyful things, but also discuss the unpleasant and sad things, care for the child’s feelings, and share the pain and joy with the child. When family members do things together, focus on the process and meaning more than the outcome. It is about participation and affirming what it means to do things together as a family. In this family, parents and children grow together. When one is convinced that no one is perfect in this world, that one will succeed and fail; that there are times when one is in a good mood and times when one is in a bad mood; that everyone may be smarter than some and dumber than others; that one is more capable in some things and less capable in others; that one cannot have everything one wants and certainly cannot always be without fault; that everyone has the desire to be treated with respect and fairness We all want others to be kind and friendly to us, to be appreciated when we do well, and to be understood and encouraged when we do badly. When feeling sorrow, trouble, frustration, someone to give support, comfort. At this time, he will be a person who has self-confidence and can live and grow happily.