Since ancient times, China has been saying “pity the parents”. Each pair of parents to educate their children is a lot of effort. Especially in modern society, the proportion of children is increasing, and there is a phenomenon of six adults surrounding a child. Children have become the focus of parents’ lives, yet in this happy environment children not only do not grow up healthily, but are reprimanded by their parents as “born in bliss,” “do not know what to do” and “have no future “. Many children in the sweet water become “problem children”, “problem teenagers”, “big and small people”. The bear throwing incident, Magaji incident, the famous school college student suicide incident occurred from time to time. Parents feel tormented by this. So, how can we make our children grow up healthy? Here is a prescription that parents may want to try. First, teach your child to follow the rules. The rapid development of modern society requires an orderly society. Rules are a prerequisite for orderliness. What should parents do? By their own actions tell their children to follow the rules all the time, not when it is to their advantage and not when it is to their disadvantage. At an intersection, someone runs a red light when you should pass, and you reprimand them: at another intersection, when you should not pass, you run the red light, affecting the passage of others, and then you not only do not apologize, but also have a lot of reasons: “What is it? Rush time, there is no way!” The child sees it in his eyes and thinks to himself: Why can’t he pass when the red light is on and sometimes he can? With such a role model, how can the child go on? As soon as a child is born, he or she lives in society, and parents are his or her first teachers, so the truth should be taught not only by word but also by example. Second, teach your child how to interact with others. Clinical work has found that interpersonal disorders are a major source of many psychological problems. Social psychology research has found that human interaction should follow the principle of reciprocal exchange, similar to commodity exchange, you have to give something to get something. The family environment is a microcosm of the society in which the child lives. How the child deals with his parents in the family is how he deals with others in society. At home he is the focus will take it for granted that he is also the focus in society, everywhere let others take care of themselves, accommodate themselves, everywhere let others consider their feelings, only want to gain do not want to pay. The slightest disobedience will cause a strong emotional reaction, can not be in adversity, sweet water a little bit bitter can not stand. He did not know that his classmates around him are also all focus, focus between each other, all without the kind of superiority in the home a call. What’s worse is that parents always get old, always get tired, always want to be rewarded when they find that their children do not know that their parents still need care, many parents have the idea that nature is straight, that their children will understand when they grow up, so when they find that things are not what they want, they lament their own fate, unaware that they are not working hard on education. Thirdly, teach your child to face up to setbacks and use appropriate methods to express their emotions. There are always a few setbacks and hardships in life. When they encounter frustration, they will inevitably be sad, frustrated, angry, and angry. At this time, “problem children” and “problem teenagers” often do not use words to express themselves, but take extreme forms: hitting, cursing, breaking things, using alcohol to kill their sorrow, and breaking the pot. This method of expressing emotions is very unconstructive, and often not only does not solve old problems but also brings some new ones. Clinically, we often see such patients, always in discomfort, often seek medical advice, a variety of tests have not found the problem, what is the reason? According to experience, it is likely that he has some recent life is not as good as it should be, but these not as good as it should be turned into a physical disease, not properly expressed. Our country has since ancient times “men have tears do not play lightly” “the heart of the word a knife”, in many cases to do so is not conducive to physical and mental health. Some literature reports that the average life expectancy of women is higher than that of men, one of the reasons for the analysis is that women will cry out when they are not happy, this practice is called venting in psychology, the premise is to first admit that they are sad, they are angry, that is, the first to recognize their emotions. As parents, to teach children more language to express their emotions. This is very important. Fourth, teach your child to be independent. Sooner or later, children become an independent individual independent of society, and thus at the right time, parents should allow their children to develop their own things and have their own outlook on life, worldview and morality. When a child has different views from his parents, don’t put on a parental face to order him to listen to you, but stand on an equal footing and have a heartfelt conversation with him to listen to him, so that he feels that his parents have felt and respected his growth. Giving your child a relatively independent space is very good for his health. Although you don’t feel comfortable with him crossing the street by himself, or going to school by himself, or making friends by himself, or even finding a lover by himself, these things are ultimately up to him, and parents cannot replace him.