Play with your child alone for 30 minutes a day. Play should be scheduled at a regular time (e.g. after homework), the atmosphere should not be tense, and there should be no arguing before the game. The purpose of the game is to pay attention to and acknowledge the child’s good behavior and gain the child’s trust. Key points 1. Let it be natural: follow the child’s wishes during the game, as long as the behavior is appropriate, how to play. Parents should be absolutely at peace and just participate in his game. Parents should believe and respect the child’s ability to solve problems, not to guide, not to try to change the child’s way of playing, not to tell the game and interfere, otherwise the child will resent. 2. Appropriate attention, encouragement: “You set this up as a roller coaster track, very creative!” (instead of exaggerating “you are a genius”), “this game of yours is very interesting”, “I really like to play together like this”. You can also touch the head or pat the shoulder, give a thumbs up to show their approval. 3. Ignore minor misbehavior. If the child shows serious disruptive behavior, turn his or her head to look away for a few minutes, which is likely to reduce the bad behavior; when the child makes more serious bad or aggressive behavior, the parent should remind the child to stop the game if he or she continues to do so. If the child still does not stop, the parent should tell the child in a calm but firm tone that playtime is over. 4. Try not to use “no,” but rather point out what you expect the child to do. For example, replace “Don’t argue” with “Wait until someone else finishes speaking”; replace “Don’t be careless” with “Pay attention to the numbers and symbols to see if they are wrong. “. 5, do not generalize, wear a hat, but on the matter, to be specific and feasible. For example, “You just don’t like to study” should be changed to “It’s already 7 o’clock and you haven’t started your homework”; “Why are you so disobedient” should be changed to “I reminded I’ve reminded you twice, but your school bag is still not organized. 6. Help your child control his or her emotions: (1) Lead by example and stay calm. Help your child express his or her emotions in words. For example, “I’m mad because they are all playing, but I have to do my homework first. Talk with your child about solutions instead of arguing. Praise your child for speaking up instead of shouting. Listen and model. “I know you are very angry, but you can’t hit anyone!” Then tell your child some appropriate alternatives. l Establish clear rules. Clearly let your child know which behaviors are allowed and which are not.” Don’t be too harsh, be flexible, and sometimes back off. (2) Teach your child some strategies for emotional control: Leave the scene. Get the anger out in a safe way. This can be done by slapping a pillow, dancing in the bedroom, or writing or drawing out your emotions. Transfer emotions. Make sure your child gets plenty of exercise during the day. Tae Kwon Do and running are especially effective for temper control. All activities that get the heart rate up can help your child release energy and stress. 7, appropriate to bear the punishment of bad behavior: the natural consequence of not eating properly is to go hungry in the afternoon; refuse to brush their teeth, the next day there will be no snacks to eat; but if the baby does not know how to do it properly, they should be taught how to deal with it, rather than just punish Oh!