After 1 year old to preschool, is a critical stage of life, often said “3 years old to see in, 7 years old to see the old”, most of the human character in this period has been formed, so this period of the child’s education guidance is particularly important. How to do it? Sixteen words to help you “learn to control, develop rules, guide feelings, outward expansion. 1, learn to control First of all, learn to control urination and defecation, which is the beginning of learning self-control, to explain to the child poop and urine respectively, often instruct him to tell his parents when he has the intention of poop, do not urinate and defecate anywhere, and timely verbal rewards, so that he feels he has the power, do not think that when you grow up naturally, so he will grow up to be a poor self-control; second is to learn to delay meet, when the child has a request, let the child learn to wait, and explain the reasons to the child, not any need to have to meet instantly, if so in the future the child will do anything will lack patience, three minutes of heat is over. 2, cultivate rules Children in the exploration of the outside world is more in the game, so in the game parents should explain the rules and children to comply with the rules, breaking the rules to be “punished”, but not too rigid; then there is the family to comply with the rules, the child will see in the mind, some of the rules of dealing with people to speak to the child; And the above “not instant gratification” linked to meet also have to have rules, to reach the conditions to be met, the difficulty should gradually increase. 3, guide feelings This is an aspect of developing emotional intelligence. When the child’s words and behavior are shown in front of the parents, the parents should tell the child how they feel inside, “You make me happy by doing this and this, baby is great!” “You so and so makes mommy angry because ……, baby don’t do that in the future.” And so on. 4, outward expansion Guide and allow children to use their own wisdom to explore the outside world, the development of their own thinking, the principle is “not to reinforce, not to prevent, to keep safe”. Good behavior over-reinforcement, will prevent him from developing other good behavior; bad behavior over-prevented, the same will be reinforced down; not over-protective, nothing is allowed to touch, this is too dirty, that is too tie, etc., in the premise of ensuring safety, to allow the child to try on their own.