I am often asked by friends, colleagues and visitors, “I’m under too much stress, I can’t take it anymore, I feel like I’m going to collapse, I won’t get mental illness, right?” “I have a poor tolerance, how can I improve it?” “I get irritable easily and lose my temper, is there something wrong with me psychologically?” “I don’t want to do anything, I’m not interested, I can’t be happy.” “When I encounter something bad, I can’t control my thoughts all the time, and I can’t get rid of it. How can I maintain a good psychological condition?” When you often appear these conditions, you may have suffered from the “mind cold”. Just as our body has the function of self-protection, such as the body will shiver when cold, when we have the above symptoms, it is a psychological imbalance of the help signal, suggesting that we need to adjust ourselves in some aspects, change ourselves, so that the imbalance of the psychological readjustment to a balanced and healthy state. Here, we borrow from George Stephenson, a renowned mental health expert, to summarize the key to maintaining mental balance. Dr. Stephenson summarized the methods to maintain mental health for your friends: (1) when distressed, find your trusted, talk to, and also a more calm mind of a close friend to talk, the heart of the sorrow in time to vent out, so as not to accumulate into a disease. (2) encounter a large stimulus, or frustration, failure and fall into a state of self-boredom, it is best to temporarily leave the situation you face, divert attention, temporarily avoid in order to restore mental peace, fill the trauma on the mind. (3) When the emotions are violently shaken, it is appropriate to transfer the emotions to other activities, forgetting to do something you like to do, such as writing, playing ball, etc., so that you can transfer and replace the bitterness, worry, anger, sorrow, anxiety and other emotions in your heart. (4) humble to others, self-expression to moderate, sometimes learn to be a supporting role and background staff. (5) more for the sake of others, more good deeds, can make your mind at ease, satisfied. (6) to do a good thing to start and finish. When faced with many difficult problems, it is appropriate to start with the most easily solved problems and solve them one by one in order to complete their tasks with confidence. (7) impatient people should not do things that are beyond their capabilities, and avoid exceeding the norm to avoid tension, agitation, and excessive psychological pressure. (8) to others to be magnanimous, do not force others must be according to your ideas to do things, can forgive the faults of others, give others the opportunity to correct. (9) maintain the harmony of interpersonal relationships. (10) Do more yourself, break the dependency mentality, do not always stay in the wait-and-see stage. (11) Develop a plan that can make you happy, but also practical recuperation of body and mind, to give yourself something to look forward to. Life is not good in nine out of ten things, it can be said that people grow up under all kinds of pressure throughout their lives, and people are individuals with potential and growth, with the tendency to self-actualization, everyone will figure out and form their own stress relief, resolve conflicts, in order to maintain the individual’s physical and mental health growth, most people can gradually resolve their own psychological distress, calm bad emotions, back to a healthy balanced psychological state. If, after various efforts, it has lasted for more than 2 weeks and still cannot be relieved from the above-mentioned bad emotional state, it is necessary to seek the help of a professional psychological counselor.