Reporter: The annual college entrance examination, which is of concern to the whole society, is still more than two months away and students, parents and teachers feel a lot of pressure. During the preparation for the college entrance examination, how should students adjust their mindset and improve the quality of revision.
Experts: The college entrance exam is a major choice for secondary school students on their growth path. The level of students’ performance in the college entrance examination depends not only on a candidate’s usual mastery of each subject, but also on the students’ psychological state, which has a great influence on their performance in the college entrance examination.
The Institute of Psychology of the Chinese Academy of Sciences has conducted face-to-face talks, studies and examinations of 300 top students in the college entrance examinations for five consecutive years since 1999, and the result is: their IQ is not outstanding, but their psychological quality is overwhelming.
Due to the defects of the examination-based education system, the characteristics of students’ psychological and physical development were suppressed. Some students in the senior class have low self-esteem, perfect master, fear of failure, excessive tension, suffering from loss. If there are more negative emotions than positive emotions, the autonomic function will be dysfunctional and the human intelligence will be suppressed. Senior students should learn to adjust expectations, enhance self-confidence, change perfectionism to strengths and avoid weaknesses, expand their horizons, open their minds, enhance the ability to withstand setbacks, do not suffer from gains and losses, adjust their mindset, both to do the review in a tense and orderly manner, but also to relax and try to self-fulfillment.
Reporter: Many parents reflect that in the college entrance examination review, some students have great mood swings, and even some psychological problems, please talk about the senior students have that some unhealthy psychological problems.
Experts: The psychological survey among the exam candidates found that the main psychological problems are stress, anxiety, depression, compulsion, interpersonal tension, etc. A small number of students at the turning junction of life, due to the pressure of further education, and even serious psychological disorders.
Several kinds of emotional reactions that should be noted.
1, appear impatient, irritable, anxious, irritable.
2.Insomnia, frequent yawning and sleepiness.
3.Significant decline in health index, often feel uncomfortable, easy to get sick, cold and headache, stomach pain, indigestion, ulcers, memory loss, back pain, muscle cramps, unable to relax.
4.Emotions are easily frustrated, low and fluctuating, feeling powerless about reality and the future, frustration and empty feelings.
5.Interpersonal relationships become disharmonious, easy to have conflicts and unhappiness with people.
6.Sensory dullness, emotional flat talk, slow behavior, and persistent low mood.
7.Speaking coldly, evaluation of oneself or others, talk to negative descriptions.
8.Easy antagonism with family and other relatives who care about their studies, and serious rebelliousness.
A person can not be without pressure, if the above judgments hold the majority of the affirmative, it is a wake-up call, is under pressure psychological unhealthy performance, which will need to find a psychologist help.
Reporter: Now the concentration of senior students reflect two words: “nervous”. Some students even say that we are like a “tight string” that may break at any time, please talk about your understanding of the study tension.
Expert: Recently, we have received several students who fainted for unknown reasons, but all kinds of tests were normal. On June 5 of last year, I received a senior girl who had diarrhea eight or nine times in the morning. At first, she thought it was an intestinal infection or she ate an unclean diet, but the internal examination could not find the cause, and the treatment of conventional diarrhea was ineffective, so she found a psychologist in a hopeless situation. To a certain extent, this can lead to somatoform disorders and many medical disorders.
For students, the college entrance exam is a very important event in their lives, and they need to concentrate on it for a period of time, so the uneasiness is concentrated in the pre-exam, the stage before the exam. The college entrance exam itself is a test of growth, and for some young people who are not mentally ready for it is indeed a kind of pressure.
Therefore, in a sense, students facing the pressure of the college entrance examination is also facing the pressure of growth, the tension brought by the college entrance examination is the growth process of confusion, as far as students are concerned, the confusion of growth is inevitable.
”Nervousness” is the core symptom of senior students’ pre-examination syndrome, said its complex is how many people have many kinds of reasons, said its simple is the root cause of only one, is the psychological burden is too heavy, can not bear the external or internal pressure.
The best way is to understand and accept your emotions, because understanding and acceptance are more practical and objective than repressing, rejecting or trying to overcome it. As long as you can make friends with “tension”, tension is not really a threat.
Reporter: Through long-term observation, the outstanding students have more psychological mood swings and more psychological problems, why is this?
Experts: Among the students of good character, there are many people whose psychological development is not sound, or there are certain psychological defects and misunderstandings:.
1, excessive pursuit of perfection, demanding too much of themselves, behavioral attention to detail, a little not enough, will be anxious.
2, too high expectations of others and the environment, they experience the most dissatisfaction and unhappiness in school, less happiness and sense of joy.
3, focus on the negative side, some good students tend to see only their own shortcomings and weaknesses in their self-evaluation, and ignore their strengths and advantages. Focus on the negative side is also manifested in the intolerance of their own failure.
4, overly concerned about their own image and the evaluation of others, on the one hand, always want to leave a good impression, and therefore very concerned about the evaluation of others; on the other hand, in the interaction with others always dissatisfied with their own demeanor, making themselves very uncomfortable.
In addition, some good students also show that they are in trouble and hesitant when facing choices, and many of them are nervous and anxious to keep the “good” evaluation.
Reporter: How can we overcome the uncertainty of the candidates?
Expert: I’ll talk about the Wallenda mentality here.
Wallenda is a famous American tightrope walker, he was very successful in his life, but the last time he fell off the wire and died. The reason is that he used to walk the tightrope, never think before and after, and focus on each step of the foot. And the last time, he always thought, “This is the last time, it is too important, must not fail. As a result, he lost his precious life because he couldn’t focus on his feet.
Now some students are just thinking before and after, afraid of the shadow of failure overshadowing them, to overcome the worry, it is important to focus on the process, the usual test failure, do not become a burden, but into wealth.
Reporter: Now, not only the pressure of senior students, parents are also under great pressure, during the preparation for the college entrance examination, parents themselves should solve what problems?
Experts: According to psychological research, 60%-70% of the candidates’ mental stress comes from the family, influenced by the negative emotions of the family, in order to make the students go to the examination hall easily, we must first cure the parents of “college entrance examination syndrome”.
Self-decompression
Parental psychological pressure performance are: one is to accompany the study, accompany the examination; two is the child’s clothing, food, housing and transportation all inclusive; three is intentionally create “a level of preparation” state. The more the college entrance examination is approaching, the more tense the family atmosphere is, and the negative effects of parents’ excessive “protection”, “concern” and “worry” for their children are often greater than the positive effects, playing a The negative implication. Therefore, there is no need for parents to be overly concerned and worried about their children who are usually able to study consciously before the exams, adding too much psychological burden to them.
High expectations
The root cause of the various psychological problems of some candidates is related to the high expectations of parents. Almost every family has the problem of “expecting a child to become a dragon”.
Some parents project their unfulfilled aspirations and dreams onto their children, trying to achieve their ambitions and dreams through their children.
Parents’ expectations may also be a motivation for their children, but they have to be reasonable, which means that parents’ expectations have to be combined with their children’s qualities, potential and confidence.
Two negative situations can occur with high expectations.
1. When the child is far from the goal after efforts, he or she is prone to self-doubt, loss of confidence, and inferiority complex.
2. The child is still working hard to reach the desired goal, but the psychological pressure is high. The child needs a lot of energy to cope with this pressure and is prone to anxiety.
Overcome lopsidedness.
Some parents attach great importance to their children’s performance in each test, and are overjoyed when they do well, and angry when they do poorly, and always complain that their children do not compete, and compare them with other children who do well, and the emotional attitude of parents can cause psychological frustration in children.
Reporter: Please talk about the measures to relieve the psychological stress of students.
Experts.
1, face reality: while actively working hard, have a normal heart that is open to success and failure.
2, self-catharsis: when there is depression, anxiety, pain, you can confide in family members and friends, you can also use the method of writing diary, but also appropriate through sports activities, recreational activities to release the accumulated energy, adjust the balance of the body.
3, appropriate conditioning: find a balance between those things that are tense, make you relax and enjoyable. You study a lot, all the more reason to take some time to do what you like to do.
4, reverse thinking: when we encounter difficulties, adversity, setbacks, bad luck, the use of reverse psychological adjustment, so that the emotions from the “end of the mountain” to “dark flowers”.
5, when the exercise: exercise is a good way to relax.
6, express emotions: the famous therapist Margot Rocha said: “to say your problems will help to re-examine it in a solid perspective”, if you are very introverted, do not like to talk, then write a diary or letter, even if not sent out, it does not matter.
7, keep humor: a sense of humor is the biggest savior of nervous people.