Recently, a lot of psychotherapy has been conducted online and offline, and has helped many people, which is very happy. While happy, there is still a lot of helplessness …… about psychotherapy, about the Chinese mainstream culture, there are indeed many strange phenomena, here shallow say a couple of: a. See a psychiatrist is mental illness? Many people equate seeing a psychiatrist with having a mental illness, so in China, there are many people who are reluctant to see a psychiatrist. There is such a county-level cadres, the whole body inexplicable pain for nearly 10 years, to the major hospitals to check all the problems, the cadres take medicine every day, but also blame the lover, that is caused by the lover’s bad …… such disorder in psychology called: conversion pain disorder, from his inability to relieve the pressure of life conversion. Friends advised him to see a psychiatrist, the cadres are determined not to go, think they have a set of theories, and then see a psychiatrist that is a psychiatric ah, the result of the final divorce and his lover, the family broke up, the pain has not improved …… I would like to help him, but he refused me a thousand miles away, so I had to give up. Poor his lover, 20 years of hard work to support the family, to middle age but for no reason to accept the pain of divorce. The more expensive the charge, the more brilliant the doctor? I remember a friend in the clothing business told me one thing, he had a piece of merchandise priced at 50 yuan, has not been sold, see soon to change the season, friends anxious, simply bid 500 yuan, the results of the day to 400 yuan good price sold. Dang, the Chinese don’t buy the right one, they only buy the expensive one! In psychotherapy, many people also have this idea, the more expensive the fee, the doctor must be highly skilled. Third, the more famous, the better the psychiatrist? The older the psychiatrist, the more experienced he or she is? Here, the text of Li Zixun, a psychologist from China-Japan Friendship Hospital, is quoted as an illustration. The following aspects are the most unreliable: 1. titles: for example, professor or chief physician, even the title of doctor does not represent anything, it is to show that they have made in some academic knowledge, but it does not mean that he is in the profession of psychology. 2, the leader of the psychological association: such as the president of the association, the director, national members, etc., busy with business work, it is impossible to quietly do cases. 3, expensive people: expensive people do not mean that his level is high, self-righteous people always think that others should be his, overestimate themselves. 4.Overseas gold-plated people: It is good to have the background of overseas study, but we have to figure out what kind of study and what kind of gold-plated. Some people come back to China, thinking that the domestic are country bumpkins, with them how to manipulate. I met a few people who think they are very bull, sincerely hope that she came to do a case supervision or lecture, only to find out that it is the bull’s head is not the horse’s mouth. 5, people who publish books: do not think that people who can write books on the level of counseling is high, ten Chinese doctors write things, nine books can not read, so that good people will also see full of problems. 6.Older people: Counseling is a very challenging job, requiring counselors must be full of spirit, energy, must be open-minded, flexible, ahead of the curve, and have multicultural values. And it’s hard for older people not to be rigid in their thinking, to think they take it with a grain of salt, and to refrain from educating people.