In ancient times, there was Qin Shi Huang who sought medicine in the East, and in modern times, there was Emperor Jia Jing who sought life through alchemy. In ancient times, there were a few people who were afraid of old age and death. For them, time is perhaps the most relentless thing in the world. It teaches us everything, and eventually buries everything itself. Tracing the root cause, “Why are people afraid of getting old? That is a fear of death. With fear comes worry, which gives rise to emotions such as anxiety, panic and uneasiness. The physician put it this way. Some people may say: death? In fact, all these “fears” have one thing in common: in essence, they all mean “loss”, and the biggest reason for fear of loss is attachment. People are more afraid of old age in an environment of pressure and competition, and old age means loss. People who are afraid of old age are not really afraid of old age in their hearts, but actually afraid of disease and death. Fear of old age is actually fear of becoming increasingly useless and losing their sense of existence, and once people age, their body functions are also declining, and illnesses are haunting and burdensome to society and family, and also infinitely closer to death.” “In today’s fast-paced and stressful society, people’s anxiety about the need for housing, medical care, and material things has increased greatly, and because they feel that “growing old” means accelerating loss and “death” means complete Therefore, people tend to be afraid when they have something, and they are always worried that they will lose what they have, and they feel that there are signs that they are going to lose it, or that they are going to lose it next. For ordinary people, old age means no competitiveness, no competitiveness means being eliminated, so the fear of old age is actually the fear of being eliminated, so people feel “old is terrible” when they are very young, because “old” means the loss of many advantages Therefore, people feel “too old” when they are very young, because “old” means the loss of many advantages and they will be at a disadvantage in the competition. Western treatment of aging “the end of life is the beginning of life” The negative mentality of the Chinese towards aging is reflected in life: a girl in her twenties speaks in an old-fashioned way, if she inadvertently sees wrinkles on her face, she will turn to various wrinkle creams, chanting “old, old! “; more than 60 years old, but the body is healthy brain spirit of the elderly as soon as they encounter new things to habitually escape, the reason is “old, can not learn high-tech”. Both the young people’s “fear of old age” and the elderly’s “old age” actually imply people’s fear of aging and death. It is reasonable to say that people’s fear of such physical changes should be an innate instinct, but why such a situation rarely occurs in the life of Westerners? First of all, from the Western developmental psychology theory, it is believed that people are older, although they are less capable and have a poorer memory, they are more experienced and have a stronger mental capacity than young people. But in our country, such a perception is obviously not accepted by most people, but rather the concept of “old is no longer” is firmly imprinted in people’s hearts. The more you cherish something, the more you are afraid of losing it, which is the root cause of the country’s fear of old age. Secondly, from the aspect of thinking, Westerners believe that life and death are both part of life, and they do not feel that death is the end of life. Americans often say that “the end of life is the beginning of life”. This concept of seeing death as another form of life has deeply influenced Westerners’ attitude toward aging and death, and they are full of imagination and expectation about it. Third, from the cultural aspect, the religious beliefs of Western society generally believe that people live to atone for their sins and return to heaven after death, so most of them have a tolerant attitude toward mistakes, focus on repentance, and have less fear of death. In contrast, Chinese feudal society has a long history of reverence for gods and ghosts, and some people subconsciously believe that they will go to hell after they make mistakes and can only be constantly condemned by conscience, repressed, feared and avoided inside. Some people do not have faith, lack of supervision and control mechanism, believe that there is nothing after death, and believe in having fun in time, so the more they have, the more they are afraid of losing, not only they have but also let their children and grandchildren have, so the “60 years old phenomenon” and “retirement syndrome” appear. Fourthly, from the viewpoint of the national mechanism, although the government has been able to provide the necessary support for the retirement of the elderly, the government has been able to provide the necessary support. Fourth, from the national mechanism, although China’s various retirement pensions and medical insurance for the elderly are becoming more and more perfect, there is still the phenomenon of “returning to poverty due to illness”, coupled with the emergence of more and more “empty nest families”, which makes many elderly people think that they are useless, afraid of dragging down their children, and have no children to be filial. The idea of having no children to do their filial duty. “With the continuous development of living standards and high technology, and the significant improvement of medical services, people’s aging age is being pushed back; but in contrast, more and more people are “prematurely aging” in their mindset. This is certainly related to social pressure, but more from the collective subconscious of the country’s “not confident, not down-to-earth”. Life is difficult, difficult, changeable, no one can always enjoy easy. In the face of difficulties, it is important to learn to resolve them. Exercise, make friends, read books, engage in the arts, help others, and find their own value can help people of all ages who are “afraid of old age” find joy and hope in life. When a person always maintain the pursuit, forward-looking mentality, you can gradually get rid of the “I used to” mantra of old age, overcome the fear of old age, even if aging can face the pressure and challenges to do something for the elderly, old age. In fact, the preciousness of life lies precisely in its finiteness, and only by recognizing its finiteness can people learn to cherish the present moment and make life more exciting. Therefore, aging is not scary, it just reminds us how to learn to cherish.