Will you starve to death in “moral nobility”? Growing up in Chinese culture, we were taught from childhood to be “selfless”, “sacrifice oneself for others”, “sacrifice one’s life for righteousness”, “sacrifice oneself to save others “. The words “to fight selfishly and to make a revolution in the depths of your soul” and “to do harm to yourself and to do good to others” were once highly promoted Chinese moral standards. However, such a moral style, but it is difficult to sustain the popularity and the public as a whole by the physical practice. Suppose you and your best friend have not eaten for several days and are dying of hunger. At that moment, you accidentally get a steamed bun, what will you do next? Please choose, the alternative answers are as follows: A. Eat it all by yourself; B. Give all the buns to your friend and watch your friend greedily eat the whole bun alone, you will feel that you have saved your friend’s life and feel how morally noble you are, even though you have been starved to dizziness and eventually starved to death; C. Break the bun in half, eat half by yourself and give the other half to your friend to eat, live and die together, share the same fate, win-win. “We are together”. Among the above alternative answers, if you choose answer A, it means that you are an “extremely selfish person”, you do not care about the life and death of friends, personal interests first. Such a way of doing things, will be judged by the morality of society. However, such an approach, there is a great advantage, regardless of any difficult circumstances, you first thought of “to make the most beneficial choice”, “regardless of the death of others, the first to ensure that they survive”. However, the cost is: not accepted by social morality, the loss of friends and family. Among the above alternative answers, if you choose answer B, you will be praised as a “moral person”, including yourself will stand in the position of “high morality” self-exaltation, self-appreciation; however, the price of such behavior is: you will be starved to death. The problem is that in your heart, you treat others as human beings, but not yourself. While you are starving and your physical needs are not met, you are busy pursuing “moral nobility and self-realization”, which will only lead to death. Of course, after your death, there will be many people to remember you, and everyone will say that you were a “good person”. Such behavioral values are often promoted by Chinese culture. That is, when you give up any of your own personal interests, when you devote your whole heart and body to the great cause of “serving the people”, when you “give your all for the cause of liberation of all mankind”, you naturally become the “great savior” of all mankind. You find your existence in the hearts of the people and live forever in the hearts of the people. In ancient times, people often said, “Selflessness is great selfishness” and “If you want to take something, you must first give it. In this behavior pattern cultivated by Chinese culture, your physical needs are not respected, and you do not get direct self-satisfaction, you will gradually develop into “narcissism”, “pseudo-self”, “pleasing personality “. On the surface, you seem to respect others and life, but in fact, when you do not even cherish your own life, it is difficult to say that you will sincerely love others. Among the above alternative answers, if you choose answer C, then you have at least achieved “equality for all”, i.e., “treating others as human beings, but also treating yourself as a human being, and treating yourself as a person who deserves the same respect as others”. “Love your friends (neighbors) as you love yourself”. While taking care of yourself, you also take care of others to the same extent. Both people get to eat the buns, even though each only gets half a bun, but, on a spiritual level, they are more able to feel the mutual care between the two people, even though they do not raise their moral sense to the extreme (not to benefit themselves, but to benefit others). Such values and behaviors are often the moral norms promoted by Westerners. In the current ideology of a market economy society, can we find a compromise or combination of the two different behavioral values of Chinese and Western cultures? Imagine: You give the whole steamed bun to your good friend, expressing your solid and wholehearted devotion to your friend. You look at him silently, and you are raising your moral sense inside, feeling that you have become a “selfless” person, while you yourself are suffering the pain of physical hunger alone; next, your friend gets the whole bun and is very grateful to you, feeling your “self-sacrifice” and “selflessness”. Then, he generously broke the bun in half, keeping half for himself and giving the other half to you; you took half of the bun, and you also felt your friend’s care for you, and you both ate the bun together and smiled at each other. This pattern seems to be quite good. However, there is a great danger: when you give the whole steamed bun to your friend, your friend has the ownership and the right to dispose of the whole steamed bun, and it is entirely possible that he will eat the whole steamed bun all by himself, without giving you half. If you meet such a friend, you can get a noble moral sense of “selflessness” in your relationship with him, and then you will die a miserable death, because you hand over all your “life survival” rights to your friend, and your Your life and death are all decided by him, not by you. Every life has the same right to live and the same human dignity. All people are equal before God; all people are equal before the law. All men are equal before God; all men are equal before the law. Respect yourself as much as you respect others; respect others as much as you respect yourself. If people do not offend me, I will not offend them; if people offend me, I will offend them. When a friend comes, there is good wine; when an enemy comes, there is a hunting rifle. ……