Emotional changes often manifest themselves in some of our neurophysiological activities. For example: when you hear that you lost a promotion opportunity that should have been in hand, your brain nerves will immediately stimulate the body to produce a large amount of excitement “adrenaline”, the result is to make you angry, restless, ready to find someone to judge, or “ask for an explanation “.
Of course, this does not mean that you should suppress all these emotional reactions. In fact, there are two kinds of emotions: negative and positive. We cannot live without our emotions; it is our normal psychological response to the outside world, and all we must do is not let us become slaves to our emotions and not let those negative states of mind shape our lives.
Negative emotions are very harmful to our health, and scientists have found that people who are often angry and hostile are likely to suffer from heart disease, and Harvard University surveyed 1,600 heart patients and found that they were three times more likely to be anxious, depressed, and grumpy than the average person.
So it’s no exaggeration to say that learning to control your emotions is a life-or-death matter in your life. Here are a few of the latest pieces of advice from experts.
Find the cause
When you are sullen or worried, the first step you need to take is to find out why. 29-year-old Frances is an advertising agency employee, she has always been calm and peaceful, but for a while it was like a new person, not good to colleagues and husband, she later found out that what disturbed her state of mind was the fear that she would lose a questioning position in one of the most important company personnel arrangements. “Even though I had been told that I would not be affected,” she says, “I was still vaguely uncomfortable about it. Once Frances learned what she was really afraid of, she seemed to feel a lot more relaxed. She says, “I put these inner anxieties into words and realized that things weren’t so bad.
Once she identified the problem, Frances focused on dealing with it. “I started to enrich myself and work harder at work.” As a result, Frances not only eliminated her inner anxiety, but was also given a more important position because of her good work.
Respect the law
Robert Seay, a professor of psychology at the University of California, said, “Many of us have a lot of problems with the way we work. Seay said: “Many of us simply attribute our mood changes to external events, but ignore that they are probably also related to your body’s internal ‘biological rhythms’. The food we eat, our health and energy levels, and even the time of day can all affect our mood.
A study by Professor Seay found that those who slept late were more likely to be in a poor mood. In addition, our energy tends to be at its peak at the beginning of the day and decreases in the late afternoon. “A bad thing doesn’t necessarily bother you at any time,” Say said: “It tends to affect you when your energy is at its lowest.”
Professor Seay also conducted an experiment in which he observed the mood and body temperature changes of 125 subjects over a period of time. He found that when people’s body temperature was on the rise within the normal range, they were in a happier mood, and they had the most energy at that time. According to Professor Seay’s conclusion, there is a cycle of human mood changes. Seay himself strictly follows the law of this “biological rhythm”, he tends to start very early, “the best time for me to write is in the morning”, and in the afternoon, he generally used to meet with guests and handle chores, “because then I tend to be less focused, more suitable for My best time to write is in the morning,” and in the afternoon, he usually spends his time meeting people and attending to chores, “because that’s when I tend to be less focused and better suited to talking to people.
Getting enough sleep
A recent survey showed that the average American adult gets less than seven hours of sleep a night.
A recent survey showed that the average American adult gets less than seven hours of sleep a night. A study by Professor Dahl found that sleep deprivation has a huge impact on our moods, saying, “For those who are sleep deprived, things that bother them are more likely to sway their moods.
So, how much sleep is enough for an adult? Professor Dahl did an experiment, he let 14 subjects in the dark for 14 hours a night for a month, the first night, they each slept almost 11 hours, as if to make up for not sleeping enough time before, after that, their sleep time full of stability in about 8 hours a night.
During this period, Professor Dahl also let the subjects record their mood state twice a day, and all of them said they were in the most relaxed mood after they got enough sleep, and looked at things in a more optimistic way.
Close to nature
Many experts believe that being close to nature helps you feel happy and cheerful. Lacaster said: “Whenever I am depressed, depressed, I will go to work in the garden, in contact with those flowers and trees, my unhappy feeling also dissipated”.
If you are not always possible to go outdoors, then even walking to the window to look at the green grass and trees is also beneficial to your mood. University of Michigan psychologist Stephen? Kepler did an interesting experiment, he let two groups of people work in different environments, a group of office windows near the natural scenery, the other group of offices are located in a noisy parking lot, he found that the former than the latter’s enthusiasm for work is higher, less bad mood, and its efficiency is much higher.
Regular exercise
Another extremely effective means of self-help to dispel bad mood is fitness exercise. Even if you just walk for ten minutes, to overcome your bad mood can receive immediate results. Researchers have found that exercise can cause a series of physiological changes in your body that are similar to the effects of drugs that can refresh the mind. But better than drugs, fitness exercise is good for you, but not bad. However, to achieve significant results, you had better engage in aerobic exercise —- running, gymnastics, cycling, swimming and other exercises with a certain intensity, and then take a hot bath after exercise is more effective.
Reasonable diet
All the energy for brain activity can come from the food we eat, so mood swings are often related to what we eat. According to Som, author of Food and Mood, it’s no surprise that people who only drink one cup of coffee every morning are in a bad mood.
To make sure you’re in a good mood, Som suggests, you should adopt some good eating habits: eat regularly (breakfast in particular should not be omitted), limit your intake of coffee and sugar (they can make you too excited), and drink at least six to eight glasses of water a day (dehydration tends to make people tired).
According to recent research, carbohydrates are more likely to make people feel calm and relaxed. Massachusetts nutritional biochemist Jendis Watterman believes that carbohydrates can help you feel better. Watterman believes that carbohydrates can increase the level of compound amines in the brain’s blood, which is considered a naturally occurring sedative. Various fruits, rice and grains are carbohydrate-rich foods.
Positive Optimism
”Some people tend to equate their negative emotions and thoughts with reality itself,” psychologist Mitchell? Hodes says: “In fact, our surroundings are by nature neutral; it is we who add either positive or negative values to them, and the question is which one do you tend to choose?”
Hodges did an extremely interesting experiment in which he showed the same cartoon cartoon to two groups of subjects, one of whom was asked to hold a pen in their teeth, a position as if they were smiling; the other group had to hold the pen with their lips, a position that apparently made it difficult for them to smile. As a result, Professor Hodes found that the former group found the cartoon more ridiculous than the latter group of subjects. This experiment shows that the difference in our moods is often not caused by the thing itself, but depends on the different ways we see things.
Psychologist Randy Lysen tells a story of his own. Latham told a story of his own: “One day, my secretary told me, ‘You look like you’re not happy,’ and he naturally saw it from my tightly locked double brow and stiff facial expression. I realized that was true, so I looked in the mirror to change my expression, and hey, in no time, those negative thoughts were gone”. Yes, life is short, so why should we bother ourselves again velvet!