The middle school students here include two stages, middle school and high school, and the age refers to the age group between 11, 12 and 17, 18 years old, which can also be called the adolescent development period because it is in the stage of adolescent development. This period is a period of excess, closed, turbulent and socialization; it is a period full of contradictions from childishness to maturity, half childishness and half maturity, independence and dependence; it is a period of inner world from simple to complex, from open to closed, a period of more inner secrets; it is a period of gradual socialization; in this period is full of contradictions and It is an important stage in the development of life, the most annoying but most fascinating period, a period that requires every parent’s attention, but not excessive attention. Some foreign scholars call this period a period of fierce wind and fury (or a period of fury), which shows the turbulence of this period. The emotions of this period are characterized by bipolarity, firstly, they are characterized by affirmation and negation of emotions, such as satisfaction and dissatisfaction, happiness and sadness, love and hatred, etc. These contradictions exist at the same time, but are unified in the individual, not only the parents of each secondary school student feel that they are contradictory, even they themselves sometimes feel very contradictory, but the specific reasons are not clear to them; secondly, they are positive and negative; Thirdly, they are nervous and relaxed; fourthly, they are excited and calm, such as anger, ecstasy, despair and will control emotions in a stable state; fifthly, they are in a bipolar state from weak to strong, such as from happy to ecstasy, from sulking to anger, from worry to fear, etc. Therefore, some parents may think that how the child suddenly becomes incomprehensible, just a good, a blink of an eye suddenly becomes a big thunder, storm, so that many parents think that the child is sick, is not a strange disease, how can this look, but in fact, the child does not have any disease, just hope that parents do not control the end like before, because the language can not express, they are using action to If this time, parents still give special attention, always uneasy, it may only be good intentions do not get a good reward, the more care, care, the more the child is resentful of you, distant, so do not blame the child does not know how to do things In fact, parents are too ignorant of the emotional characteristics of children at this stage. I believe that if you can believe in your child, understand your child, pay attention to your child silently, pay attention from afar when your child does not need you, and appear immediately when you need you, I believe that you will pass this fascinating stage safely and your child will grow up healthy and strong.