It is a well-known fact that hitting children is not good. However, some parents are “provoked” and still have difficulty controlling their emotions and impulsive behavior to hit their children. After a child is beaten, there is a psychological “fear, repression” and a tendency to “exclusion” in the mind. This is often manifested as “not talking, doing their own thing”. Children feel lonely and aggrieved because their parents do not understand and appreciate them, and they try to find reasons for their so-called “wrongdoing” to deny their parents’ education in order to vent their feelings of aggression. Some parents do not understand the child’s psychological state at this time, after beating the child, but also insist that the child admit “mistakes and early commitment”, or ignore the child in this period of time, in order to show the authority of the parents. This is not known to promote the further development of the child’s tendency to “exclusive” thinking. At this time, although the child appears to be doing what the parents want, but in fact the child’s mind is very resistant, and at the same time, the inner “wrong” correction is not sure what to do, speculation, and even complaints. Such an unreasonable way of parenting not only fails to achieve the purpose of effective education, but also causes the child’s “eccentric character” to develop. The best way to resolve conflicts with children is to “apologize” to the child that the behavior of hitting the child was wrong. At the same time, in the context of what your child has done wrong, sincerely tell your child about your “overly aggressive” thoughts, so that your child can appreciate your intentions and thus bridge the distance between your own mind and that of your child. This is a process of communicating with your child’s thoughts, not indulging them. Letting your children experience the love, care and trust of their parents is the best catalyst for them to recognize and correct their mistakes. To teach a child is to think of ways to understand and enlighten the child’s mind, not to impose one’s will on the child. A harsh attitude is not something a child wants to accept, even if you are a parent.