The term “lost love” refers to an infatuated person who is abandoned by his or her romantic partner. The main emotional reaction caused by the loss of love is pain and anguish, most people can correctly treat and deal with this phenomenon of love frustration, happy to move on to a new life. However, there are some people who cannot exclude this strong emotion in time. This leads to psychological imbalance, personality perversion, sadness, pain, anger and despair, a strong sense of revenge, low self-esteem, and even anger at others or things in response.
(1) Unrequited love is not love
Unrequited love can only internally deplete one’s mental strength and cause psychological trauma. If you are in love, but do not elicit a response from the other person, that is, if your performance as a lover through your life does not make you the loved one, then your love is powerless and unfortunate.
Losing love is not a loss of attitude, you cannot be negative and decadent. You can’t lose your love, you can’t miss your normal study life. The actual fact is that you will be able to get a lot more than just a few of these. The actual fact is that you will not be able to get a lot of money for your own business. The company’s reputation is not damaged. The failure of love is not a loss of will.
After the failure of love, the most failure is to find a random person to marry, the most most failure is really do so.
There is a couplet like this: the first couplet: love has been suspended, love also chopped warehouse, fate slipped to the down board; the second couplet: thinking is a bull market, want no bear market, feelings can not cast a long line. Banner: hurry to fill positions.
Do you know that “the faintest light is also a sword that pierces the darkness!” Please believe that there is always another Kewpie’s arrow shot at you, and you coincide! Friendship cannot be mistaken for love. Like you, you don’t need a reason; don’t like you, everything is a reason.
In 2015 January Tuesday morning my counseling clinic came to a female client, he entered the consulting room and said division doctor, my boyfriend went to Beijing, abandoned me, he is not a person (cry)!
I said, “Did your boyfriend abandon you before you got married or after you got married? She thought for a moment and said: before marriage is better!
I said you should send a tweet to Beijing to thank him for abandoning you before you got married and giving you a chance to find a better looking guy!
She said yes, I understood and quickly turned sad to happy.
The so-called love is a strong, pure, dedicated feelings between men and women based on a common ideal of life, the formation of mutual admiration in their hearts, and the desire for each other to become their lifelong partner. The three elements of love: sex, ideals and responsibility . Sexual attraction makes love branded as love and distinguishes heterosexual love from heterosexual friendship at all. The ideal is the love that expresses the lovers’ hope for life and their vision of the future, which makes people in love to overcome the negativity and decadence in life with great enthusiasm. The responsibility of love is not selfishly taking over the feelings of the other person, but consciously and voluntarily giving them to the person they love.
(2) The basic characteristics of love
Mutual love. Love is based on the premise that men and women love each other. I love you, and you love me. Love each other. One, respect each other’s right to choose voluntarily. Second, respect for each other’s personality. Third, unrequited love is not love.
Equality. Lovers respect each other, trust each other, care for each other, and support each other; it is a relationship of equality, not a dependent, possessive relationship.
Dependency. A man and woman who love each other are attracted to each other and bridge each other. Without one partner, it seems that the other cannot exist. In love, both partners find in each other themselves as a whole, their essential strength is realized in each other, they are emotionally attached to each other, they rely on each other in their actions, and they support each other in their lives.
Durability and creativity. Lu Xun pointed out in “The Wounded Dead”: “Love must be renewed, grown and created from time to time. The flower of love needs to be carefully cultivated by both lovers – caring for each other, understanding, helping, respecting, and bearing all the hardships that may arise in the household and in life together. This is the way to shine and never wither.”
The unity of sensuality and rationality. Plato said: “The mind is like a carriage, which consists of three parts: the harness and two horses, the harness is reason, one is an untamed inferior horse, and one is an obedient good horse, the good horse is the will, the inferior horse is the lust, the good horse “can be self-governing, know the shame”, is the friend of the right opinion, while the inferior horse The good horse “is self-governing and knows integrity” and is a friend of right opinion, while the bad horse is “barely tamed by whipping”. This horse gallops toward the feast of carnal lust and indulges in pleasure.”
The nature of love. The essence of love is to give, to give. Love is a duty, a devotion, not a demand or a possession. It is this selfless devotion and giving that makes love noble and pure.
Sukhomsky: “Remember that love means, first of all, taking responsibility for the fate, the future of your beloved partner. Love, first of all, means giving, giving your spiritual strength to your beloved partner, creating happiness for him or her.”
College student love strategy: the boy’s strategy is to stay put in freshman year; sophomore year; junior year; talk nonsense; senior year split action . The girl’s strategy is occasionally active, occasionally passive; do not be impulsive, try to wait for the opportunity to move; even if you are stupid, but also to pretend to stay put; that will make the man’s heart thumping! No matter when and move, and no matter how and move, can not break through the political bottom line, the legal bottom line, the moral bottom line and not to affect the bottom line of school.
(3) the wine of love, sweet and bitter
Love, like the three kingdoms, together for a long time will be divided, divided for a long time will be together; love, also like the West, ninety-eight hundred and eleven difficulties, only to obtain true love; love, more like the Red Chamber, there is always a group of people to it as a guideline (gui nie); spend their lives studying it; love, the most like the Water Margin, how bombastic you are, and eventually have to be recruited by life.
The wine of love, sweet and bitter. Two people drink is manna, three people drink sour like vinegar, casual drink to poison. The thing about love is ice cream: delicious, beautiful, but easy to melt. The matter of marriage is like a hot sugar cake: full, sweet enough, but often hot mouth. There are many ancient love stories and many contemporary love accidents.
True love has two distinct characteristics: one is giving rather than possessing, and the other is lasting rather than transient.
Giving rather than possessing: Love is a passion of devotion. When you love someone, you can’t help but want to do something for her, to make her happy, and to do it absolutely without expecting anything in return. The tragedy is that the two are often misplaced, falling in love with someone who does not love them, and loving someone who is not loved by them, often by mistake.
Lasting, not transient: love is not an affair, because it is a matter of the soul. Love is not flirtatious, love is one of the most serious things between the two sexes. Flirting is easy, love is heavy. While it is true that true love may cost one’s heart and soul, it leads to a reward that is engraved in one’s bones.
Remember the following couplet: top line: the wind is blowing, the rain is falling, I’m waiting for you to call back; bottom line: for you to live, for you to die, for you to keep a lifetime. Crossword: Send the wrong person.
(4) men and women are suitable for couples of 10 standards
When a man meets a woman, from knowing each other to love each other, and finally married, which of course there will be accidental factors, but more inevitable factors. Therefore, in a way, men and women to meet and fall in love is more of a chance, and can go into marriage as a couple is more on the inevitable internal factors. So in the end what kind of man and woman is suitable for couples? Men and women to meet what conditions to do couples in order to make marriage more durable? Men and women are suitable for couples of 10 standards are as follows.
① two people must first be friends to talk about
② at least have roughly the same life values
③ each other to be able to fully understand the trust
④ when there is a conflict between the two can easily communicate
⑤ each other have the basic sacrifice “loss” spirit
⑥To be tolerant and generous to each other
(7) To be able to share the same interests and interests
⑧Be able to stand the test and support each other
⑨ can accept each other’s family relatives
⑩Basic material economy as the basis
(5) How to get rid of the shadow of lost love
① It is best not to see each other: do not go to the places you used to go to in order to reduce the miss him. Remember not to date or call with him again. Distance and time are able to dilute the feelings between each other.
② Don’t make excuses for yourself. A relationship that is too deep tends to make people forget themselves, and even if they break up, they will inevitably do silly things, such as trying to give themselves the opportunity to contact him.
③ Clean up items related to him
④Participate in some outdoor activities and social activities
⑤Don’t catch up with each other’s social networks
⑥Increase the level of self-confidence and find self-worth
⑦Strive hard to achieve success, fame and fortune, so that your realm can be elevated.
The lesson of lost love, please remember the couplet, the top line: think no answer to think also occupy the line feelings can not be recharged; love has been in arrears love has been shut down fate is not in the service area. Crossword: heart if mobile how to connect.