Being betrayed by a loved one is a painful experience. It is easy to say a word of forgiveness, but it is quite difficult to rebuild trust. This process requires a joint effort from both parties. The things that need to be done by the other party are: first, to give you a promise not to cheat again, and second, to confess your affair. In addition to the details of sexual life (try not to say, otherwise it will leave a shadow), other circumstances should be and out, such as how much money spent for the other party, how long a date, the depth of feeling to what extent, and so on, to gain your trust. Third, should fully understand your pain and be willing to make some efforts to change the current state of alienation between you. The things you need to do are: First, to know how to reflect, you must understand that happy marriages do not occur extramarital affairs, the other party’s cheating, showing that there are certain problems in the marriage, you have to learn to face and change. Second, you do not trust each other because of the insecurity inside. To alleviate this feeling, you can express it to the other person in words, such as, “When you come home late, I feel uneasy, as if you are dating someone else.” Next, you can make requests, such as, “It might make me feel better if you call me a few times a day.” Third, force yourself and don’t go overboard with the questioning or interrogation. In counseling, I usually advise the betrayed party to give the other party a parole period, make a gesture of trust, and work on building mutual feelings. Then after three months or six months, make an evaluation. If the other party still has suspicious whereabouts, you can also investigate, such as checking phone records, etc. But if not, you should fully trust each other. Fourth, you must do no matter what quarrel occurred, can be on the matter, do not turn over old debts, otherwise, your so-called “forgiveness” is a mistake – forgiveness of each other’s betrayal, need great courage and mind. The last thing to say is that if you can’t change the problems in your marriage, betrayal is likely to happen again and again. Even with marriage counseling, some families will still break up. The difference is that they are able to accept the divorce with peace.