A female friend once asked me, you already have a partner on the premise, if there is a rich man to pursue you, than your other half handsome, rich, passionate, you with or not with ta go? Today, I want to use the same question to ask you in front of the screen. First of all, this question, some people will think it is a kind of temptation, will be difficult, some people will think it is a kind of opportunity, raw pounced on the past, there are a few people will not think it is temptation. 1, the temptation to reflect the values of my readers, big M, a handsome man, a girlfriend, he often meets some women who take the initiative to find him to ask for dating or to WeChat, and are still in good shape women, there is no lack of rich white beauty. His point of view I very much appreciate, he said: “those who know that I have a girlfriend of women, but also to find me, on the one hand, they look down on me; on the other hand, they look down on their own; and on the other hand, the most critical, that is, the concept of love is distorted.” They look down on me: meaning, sometimes some women take the color to tempt, also some direct money status temptation, say, you and I together can less struggle for more than ten years. This is an insult to men with high self-esteem. They look down on themselves: they have to feel that they have no chance of winning, how to get out of hand, only need to use color and money to seduce the man they want? How worthless do they feel that they need to dig up other people’s walls? Twisted concept of love: knowing that others have girlfriends, but hard to dig the wall, such a concept of love, do not have to follow the loyalty? Does such a person have any sense of loyalty? Even if they are really together, is it possible to have hard feelings in the concept of love? 2, the temptation to reflect the problem of marriage If you think the front is temptation, difficult or even want to pounce on the past, then you can reflect on their own love or marriage, is not what went wrong. Lack of love? Lack of sex? Or lack of money? Deeper, the reason why the temptation is considered temptation, that corresponds to what is missing in your heart? Married female reader K tells of her inner struggle: “I really don’t want to cheat, nor do I want to get a divorce, but when the other side appears, like the sunshine. I need that kind of positive encouragement and guidance, and the man who appears outside the marriage, he gives me the sunshine I want. It was more than the instant gloom and doom as soon as I got home, and I knew that there were things that I might be a little bit on the ropes.” What K was missing inside was that encouragement and being seen. She grew up with a lack of love and a strong sense of helplessness. With her own efforts, she made her way to the sunshine one step at a time, but she was often yanked into the abyss in a second by her mama’s boy husband, with a cold word. She is deeply trapped in the marriage can not help themselves, so there is an opportunity for outsiders to take advantage of. 3, the cost of accepting the temptation of unmarried female readers small L in the background to tell her inner confusion: that married man, I followed him for five years, at first he seduced me, I did not agree. Later he used his position to give me care, slowly I fell, this sinking, is five years. Now he is patting himself on the back and wants to turn around and go back to his family and wants to cut me off. I want to give him a child, even without a name, but he said, “My money is with my wife, I really want to return to the family. Now it’s getting moralistic.” Little L struggled and gasped, but was in pain, unwilling to step out in what she thought was love. The jury is out on how much it costs to accept temptation. Nor do I want to be alarmist. There are tons of real cases that tell us. Light is afraid, a lie with ten sentences to round. Heavy is a wife and family, reputation destroyed, and even blood. 4, the essence behind the temptation – escape Extra-marital affairs, whether it is a man cheating on his wife or a woman cheating on her husband, or a third party outside the marriage, are attempting to use such a form of extra-marital affairs to meet their own temporary pleasure, to escape from their own problems, and to escape from the problems of the marriage. Whether it’s just for sex, or both sex and caring, they all coincidentally point to the behavior they’re avoiding. Trying to find the golden key to pleasure or even happiness in a new sexual or emotional situation. Just like before you married your partner, did you try to find the golden key to happiness with true love? The person you met back then, and the one you met outside of marriage now, are just reincarnations. In the TV series “My First Half Life”, let us see, after the affair is corrected, the ex-husband brother realized that the original affectionate, gentle and virtuous later, is not really as stupid as the housewife of the sweet period of the ex-wife. If you do not have to fill the lack of their own hearts, not actively make up for the original marriage is not easy, then it is very likely that just in the seemingly beautiful new extramarital affair, repeat their own choices again and again, into the cycle again and again. Summarize: 1, the temptation to reflect the values they look down on me: meaning, sometimes some women take the color to temptation, but also some direct money status temptation, said, you and I together can less struggle for more than ten years. This is an insult to men with high self-esteem. They look down on themselves: they have to feel that they have no chance of winning, how to get out of hand, only need to use color and money to tempt the man they want? How worthless do they feel that they need to dig up other people’s walls? Twisted concept of love: knowing that others have girlfriends, but hard to dig the wall, such a concept of love, do not have to follow the loyalty? Does such a person have any sense of loyalty? Even if they are really together, is it possible to have hard feelings in the concept of love? 2, the temptation to reflect the marriage problem The reason why the temptation is considered temptation, that corresponds to, what is missing in your heart? 3, the cost of accepting the temptation Light is afraid, a lie with ten sentences to round. Heavy is a wife and family, reputation destroyed, and even bloodshed. 4.The essence behind the temptation – escape